Vent!!! kinda long

do any of you have a 'friend' who has to be the center of attetion at ALL times??? and acts like a friend when your life is horrible??


my suposed 'Best friend' / MOH is really getting to me BIG TIME...
when she got married a yr n half ago i was by her side 24-7... shes not the planning type so i literally did EVERYTHINGGGGGGGGGGG FROM calling DJ's, Photographers, davids bridal to literally addressing her invites and doing the wax seals and mailing them... on top of all that Fh and i got her Diamond cross earrings she wanted and her Dh a Xbox 360 and ALSO gave them $300 spending cash for their Honeymoon...

now... we announce we are getting married and all the hype is about us... well i guess she cant take that cuz bam she decides to get pregnant... worst timeing possible for her since shes still in school and has to quit her job for her 6mnth internship but she still does it... now she goes and tells me she doesnt think she can be MOH cuz the baby is going to take all her time... Keep in mind shes due in aug my wedding is the following June... so the baby will be 8mnths already... i feel like ****... i always get the **** end of the deal with her... ALWAYS .... its not about the money or the gifts but damn she cant be by my side the most important day of my life beacuse shes so caught up in her own little world.... also my other best friend (who is very much the planning type) emails her the other day and tells her she has a few ideas for my shower and that they should get together and start planning stuff with the other BMS... well the MOH's responce to that was well... since the baby is going to be here by then and im doing my internship i wont have any money so i dont know what to tell you....


its funny because for her shower i was jobless and still helped with everything.. what does helping have to do with paying???

i really cant take this anymore and im going to lose it and tell her about her self....

awwwwwww. have you ever talked to her about stuff like this? she probably doesnt even realize it. and unfortunately, even if you tell her, it might not make a difference. why dont you try not dealing with her for a while just to take time to yourself and relax. you dont need to deal with that now.

and maybe if you dont call, she will realize something is missing....

idk...dont have the answers...good luck dear!

thanks hun... the prob is i alwayssss talk to her bout it and she never sees anything wrong... funny thing is we have been friends for over 11 years now even have matching tattoos and everything lol... and for the last 4 yrs shes been like this... its like damn... why would u hurt ur 'best friend' like that....


i have more arguments with this girl then my FH...

but when ever she needed me i was ALWAYS there for her,,, and funny she cant be there for me.... ever ... i try not to think about it but its like the most exciting time in my life and she doesnt even care

She seems super self centered....

The way I look at friendships and if they should be continued is...what do they add to my life?? Sounds like she adds nothing but stress...

I would try to not taking her being pregnant as a personal thing.
I also think that by telling you and the other BM this far ahead of time that she probably can't help in the bridal shower planning might be best. At least this way people aren't counting on her contributing and then screwed over in the end.

I do think that she should have worded it differently instead of, 'i dont know what to tell you.' That was def very rude imo.

I agree that you should talk to her. Unfortunately people grow apart after awhile.

she is self centered,... i feel like i always get walked all over with her....


its fine if she couldnt help out with the expenses but why cant she help with other things? and keep in mind she said yes to the MOH title which kinda puts her in charge of organizing stuff like the shower n bach party...


i think im gonna have another talk with her and if she still doesnt get it... im done...

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Posted by lori7570

She seems super self centered....

The way I look at friendships and if they should be continued is...what do they add to my life?? Sounds like she adds nothing but stress...

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took the words out of my mouth...

I know its hard, but if i was in your situation I would cut my ties with her and move along...

I would ask her to go to lunch and really tell her how you feel, that you were there for her every step of the way for her and you really need her support and friendship during this extremely important and happy time in your life. Explain to her that money isn't what you need from her (even tho it would help ), rather you need her as a friend more then anything.


HTH

thank you guys... i know i can always come to you all for support!!!




im going to def speak with her... and see what happends but im sure it wont change,,, thats just how she is.. never sees anything wrong with herself....

Her having a baby has nothing to do with you. My MOH is planning to get pregnant as well. If she decides she can't be my MOH because she's pregnant (she's not the type, but you never know) well, then.. I'll find someone else but I won't fault her for that. She has every right to do with her uterus whatever she wants, my wedding be dam*ned.

HOWEVER, all that being said... your MOH does seem to like the attention and probably isn't doing what she can for you. You need to decide whether or not you still feel she should represent you on your wedding day.

D.! i am soo sorry you are going through this I know it hurts you because she is supposed to be your M.O.H maybe you can let sometime pass maybe she can think things through and come to terms. I wish i was there to give you a hug because i had an issue with my best friend about being a bridesmaid in the past...but then she realized what she did and we had a conversation. I hope everything works out for you in the end best of luck