VENT: long sorry
First, I want to say that I am sooo grateful that my parents are helping us with the wedding. They are paying for the RH and my dress. My mom and dad saved for mine and my sister wedding and again I appreciate it soooo much.
I know my parents would offer to pay for it all, but we both felt uncomfortable with that. I am very independent and have been working and living on my own since I was 22. I had a job at 13/14, and I just like to be independent and pay for my own things.
So I told my parents, we want to pay for everything else. The RH is a HUGE chunk and that would help us sooo much, and I'm very thankful.
Ok, so now here is the problem.
I have been researching photographers. I really liked TP and spoke to him on the phone. At the CLM tasting, my dad and I spoke to him. My dad told me he would pay. I said no. He told me not to give my credit card to Tom the next day when I called to set everything up. Well, I called the next day and gave my credit card info because I didn't want my dad to pay.
My dad texted me later one that he knows a photographer that can give me the exact package but 1000 cheaper. I called and told him I already set it up.
He yelled at me for not listening to him. He said don't ask for his input again (but I didn't ask for his input to begin with), and to pay for everything myself. He hurt my feelings and of course I was crying about it yesterday. My mom said he had my best intentions (which I know), but he goes about it the wrong way,
He should have told me he had another photographer that night.
It's like everything I research and like, he says there is something better. When we fell in love with CLM, the first thing he says to me is that he went to Land's End and loves it there. And he went on and on about having the wedding there (after we already picked CLM).
Am i being overly sensitive and a baby?
I feel like he was wrong for yelling at me and flipping out.
I know my parents would offer to pay for it all, but we both felt uncomfortable with that. I am very independent and have been working and living on my own since I was 22. I had a job at 13/14, and I just like to be independent and pay for my own things.
So I told my parents, we want to pay for everything else. The RH is a HUGE chunk and that would help us sooo much, and I'm very thankful.
Ok, so now here is the problem.
I have been researching photographers. I really liked TP and spoke to him on the phone. At the CLM tasting, my dad and I spoke to him. My dad told me he would pay. I said no. He told me not to give my credit card to Tom the next day when I called to set everything up. Well, I called the next day and gave my credit card info because I didn't want my dad to pay.
My dad texted me later one that he knows a photographer that can give me the exact package but 1000 cheaper. I called and told him I already set it up.
He yelled at me for not listening to him. He said don't ask for his input again (but I didn't ask for his input to begin with), and to pay for everything myself. He hurt my feelings and of course I was crying about it yesterday. My mom said he had my best intentions (which I know), but he goes about it the wrong way,
He should have told me he had another photographer that night.
It's like everything I research and like, he says there is something better. When we fell in love with CLM, the first thing he says to me is that he went to Land's End and loves it there. And he went on and on about having the wedding there (after we already picked CLM).
Am i being overly sensitive and a baby?
I feel like he was wrong for yelling at me and flipping out.
