Hey girls I need some help! LOL My FMIL is planning my bridal shower with my mom which I am so worried about because she is very lame and doesn't know how to throw an awesome party. My mom does so I am only a little worried about that. My bridal shower is a surprise WHICH I HATE because I like knowing what where when and why and how all the time. So not knowing what is going on is killing me. So her and my mom discussed a theme for my shower, the theme is Princess which I hate I really wanted a 50's theme shower and I told my mom this. So my FMIL told FH this so I had to get it out of him because he knows I really hate surprises and I really hate the them.. I just don't know what to do I know when this is going to be I know its either going to be Nov to Jan that much I know. I hate not being in control of things and it is driving me nuts. I really hate not knowing and I really don't what my bridal shower to be so lame that my friends hate me. I want my bridal shower to be as non traditional as possible and it looks like it is not going to be that way. I am so worried!!!!
Sorry for the long Vent girls! I just don't know what to do.
kerryums
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Is it possible FH is playing a joke on you saying that it's princess themed???? If its the antithesis of what you would want, maybe they're just having fun with you so that it will be a surprise!
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I'm sure your shower is going to be great no matter what, and everyone will have a great time!
I know its hard sometimes but try and just let the reigns go on this one and just show up and have a great time. I'm sure ur mom and FMIL have been looking forward to planning this and suprising you, so I'd try to just let it go and just enjoy not having to worry about planning anything else but the wedding, b/c that's enough stress....lol
LindsaylovesJustin
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I feel that you should be greatful that someone is even throwing you a shower! My parents are so uninvolved they dont even know the date of the wedding till they get invites.
I hope this doesn't come across as rude at all... I just wanted to be a reminder that we should be gracious no matter what... if someone is spending all that money and effort, even if its not what you want...
its the thought that counts... at least someone is there doing it for you
pixietina
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Don't focus on it. You should just be happy that your family is involved. What matters is that you will be around people that love you no matter what the theme is. Just focus on the people that are going to be there not the decorations.
soon2beMrsHenry92912
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I understand how you feel. I HATE not knowing what is going on. FH teases me all the time and gets such a kick out of it because I can be so nosy and it kills me when others know things that I don't. But, I feel as brides we should be excited for our showers and it is nice not to have to plan another thing for our wedding. Try not to worry about what kind of shower it will be, try to be excited for everyone who will be there to celebrate with you! Can you get your other BM involved in the planning? Will that ease your worries? Also, do not think that your friends will hate you if your shower does not meet your expectations. They are your friends and they will love you no matter what! And, when someone is invited to a bridal shower they should expect the typical bridal shower things, i.e games, opening of gifts, etc. Just enjoy the day and being pampered and all the gifts! HTH!
BklynBabe1624
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Maybe they are trying to throw you off? I would slighlty hint of the 50's theme? Since your mom knows you want this, can she tell your FMIL that this is what you want and will do?
BklynBabe1624
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Oh...enjoy this surprise...one less thing you want to do. Let the fun begin for you and enjoy that!! And your friends will enjoy in the day not hate you if something isn't set right. Enjoy that you have two important women in your life planning this fun surprise. Erase your mind from the unknown, and imagine all the nice gifts you will receive. It's your day!!
SEB102707
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maybe you can express your concerns to your bridal party? Maybe your maid of honor can help you out by expressing to your mother and fmil the issues you are having?
linda_art
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I hate surprises too so I understand, but try to be grateful. My mom died 7 years ago today and if she was around to throw me the worst, piss poor, embarrassing bridal shower- I'd take it in a HEART BEAT. Everyone wants you to be happy, maybe just try talking to your mom about wanting a more 'mature theme' or some other way of wording it that wouldn't bash their idea but clearly define that its not what you always dreamed it would be.
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Thanks I am great ful I just feel like my FMIL is taking control and not letting my mother help at all which is really rude. Knowing FH he was not joking when he said it was princess theme because I had to drag it out of him. I saw FMIL yesterday and kind of hinted to her what I wanted and hated about other bridal showers I have been to. I just can't come out say don't do this or do this. Because she will not do anything. It is just becoming a pain the butt. Good news though going to be booking HM on Monday flights for Jet Blue will be coming in. Thank god something going right.
