Vent-Selfish FSIL!

UGH-FH's Sister is SO selfish.

FH & Her DO NOT get a long-when they do talk-they end up having blow out arguements.

So we originally had our date set at 11/12/11. But after some venue changes & other plans we moved it up to 4/22/11. This was discussed since LAST November! Over new years; FH finds out that his sister is getting married this year too-and has set her date as 4/22/11!!! She's only been with the guy maybe 2 years and it's her second marriage. FH laughed it off; thinking that she's always trying to compete with him.

She never even told her parents; FH; or their sister. Instead she posted it on Facebook & started inviting friends from their childhood etc. (mind you people that weren't even on our list; but i guess she figured we were going to invite them.

Just out of kindness i asked FH if he wanted to change our date (we hadn't printed invites) but he said NO; that we had been together for 7 years; engaged for 2; everyone knew we were planning our wedding for this year. And knew we had moved it up to April. That she was being selfish by not reaching out to him to see if the dates would conflict.

Long story short-FH's other sister; isn't even going to her wedding. Never planned on going even if it were a different day they don't get a long either. Fh gets a call from his father today saying he doesn't know if he can come to OUR wedding; because he doesn't want it to seem like he's choosing sides. FFIL NEVER got invited to the other daughters wedding. He's only heard of it by word of mouth. Apparently the daughter was gonna tell him in person when he went to visit her kids next month. (So an invitiation or basically first offical knowledge of your own childs wedding 2 months prior). Which FH says his father wasn't even going to her wedding anyway; because he doesn't agree with it and after the way she rushed into her 1st marriage and is doing the same thing again. basically she's marrying a low life.

I'm so MAD. Now FH is upset that his OWN father is saying he might not go to his son's wedding; so he doesn't hurt the selfish sisters feelings.

But i said if FFL wasn't gonig to the wedding regardless of what date it was (and still technically hasn't been invited) then what difference does it make if it's now on the same day????

What kind of sister knows her brother is getting married either doesn't even check to see what the date is or doesn't care and just makes her plans to compete?

Sorry this is so long-i just can't believe her! I can see why FH doesn't even talk to her-it's very sad that she coudln't just put their differences aside; be happy for her brother and let him have his day.