I am so angry and just really need to vent. My FH's brother & my friend got engaged 2 years ago. For the entire 2 years they have been engaged they did not do any wedding planning. FH & I got engaged in June. About 1 month before we got engaged his brother and my friend told us that they were planning a January wedding in Vegas. We thought that was great becasue then we could pick any day in 2009 that we wanted for our wedding. So FH & I get engaged in June and go right into planning our wedding. We chose Septemebr 26, 2009. Before we started booking anything we let his brother & fiancee know what date we were choosing. So we start booking and get into our wedding planning. In July they tell us that they want to get married on October 4, 2009 (the Sunday after my wedding) instead of January 2009 in Vegas. FH & I talked to them about this and explained how if they have their wedding the Sunday after ours they would really mess up our honeymoon. Sooooooo I just get an e-mail from my friend today (btw FH & I are in his brothers wedding and they are in ours) she e-mailed all of the bridesmaids....she finally nailed down a date for her wedding.....are you ready for this.....their wedding date is SEPTEMBER 5, 2009.....3 weeks before my wedding!!!! Seriously 3 weeks before it's sooooo messed up and I am soooo angry about this. If it was just my friends wedding I would not really care....but it's FH's brother's wedding. Plus they are having their wedding upstate so in addition to everything we need to pay for to be in their wedding we also have to spend money on hotel accomadations for 2 nights. I am just really angry and upset about this! Thanks for listening to my vent girls!!!!! xoxo
nicopico13
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I definitely know how you feel... and its hard not to get upset especially when you put much thought into yours and then its like oh hey we're getting married at that time too! I'm sorry this happened, but don't let it take away from your day!
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did they book their RH yet? when I booked for oct back in May almost every weekend in sept and oct was booked solid! maybe they will have a hard time finding their date...
that really *****.. but i guess there isn't anything you can do about it if they are willing to change it.... DON'T share your vendors and ideas with her!
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i would be soooo mad if i were you, i'm really sorry that *****!
get REVENGE! be spiteful, obviously your friend is
Future Mrs Roo
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wow thats really messed up
Celest
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Sorry 08'er here. I just wanted to say how much that sux. I am so sorry that despite your attempts to be considerate, others are not
My advice, though it may sound catty it is meant to be practical... make sure you are organized & send information to your guest first about the date. That way people do not think you decided your date after theirs (which might be the impression she is intending). Maybe that way if you start spreading the news now that you already started booking the date, her own family will let her know that her choice is impractical.
Also put things in place to make it easier for your guest coming in from OOT. So that people that do have to travel from OOT at least will have a comfortable stay at your wedding
& I hate to say this, but be wary of discussing your wedding plans, because you can have wedding identity theft.... Since she is before you, if you tell her what you are doing & she does exactly the same, you will be mortified. It isn't nice but it happens.
She probably is rushing to have the wedding now because after seeing you guys get engaged & start planning she probably looked & him & said 'get a move on'..lol (which is kind of understandable, but the date choice is not) .
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Posted by Celest
Sorry 08'er here. I just wanted to say how much that sux. I am so sorry that despite your attempts to be considerate, others are not
My advice, though it may sound catty it is meant to be practical... make sure you are organized & send information to your guest first about the date. That way people do not think you decided your date after theirs (which might be the impression she is intending). Maybe that way if you start spreading the news now that you already started booking the date, her own family will let her know that her choice is impractical.
Also put things in place to make it easier for your guest coming in from OOT. So that people that do have to travel from OOT at least will have a comfortable stay at your wedding
& I hate to say this, but be wary of discussing your wedding plans, because you can have wedding identity theft.... Since she is before you, if you tell her what you are doing & she does exactly the same, you will be mortified. It isn't nice but it happens.
She probably is rushing to have the wedding now because after seeing you guys get engaged & start planning she probably looked & him & said 'get a move on'..lol (which is kind of understandable, but the date choice is not) .
I have to agree. i probably wouldnt discuss your wedding plans/colors/themes or anything that you dont want to be copied with her
FutureMrsG
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That is very inconsiderate! I would say something to her about her decision.
CMBove
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Date twin!
I am so sorry you have to go through this! At least you can go on your HM?
ttdiff11
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omg im so sorry!!
Caramelatta
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awww i'm sooo sorry. I would really be upset as well. Can you talk to her about and explain to her that you will be spending a vast amount of money if she can do the January wedding instead.
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I can't believe that! I would be bother too! But in the end, take a deep breath and realize why you are getting married. After all it is yur special day and no one can ruin it for you! Also try not to stress too much, you still have a whole year, maybe things will change!
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Im so sorry!! I know this sounds bad, but thats just an unwritten rule for girls, you just dont do that!!! I bet shes just jealous because she sees how awesome your wedding is going to be!
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That's so messed up!! I really can't understand how they could do that after they already know your date! So rude. But I absotively posilutely agree that you should not share ANY other wedding details cuz this could definitely turn into a mess.
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I would say something to them about how you feel !!!!!!!!! Why all of a sudden is it that date ?????? I know I would be pissed !!!!!!!!! Good Luck ... Keep us girls posted ...
