VENT!!! (sorry kind of long)

Lisa909 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 10:41 AM

VENT!!! (sorry kind of long)

I am so angry and just really need to vent.
My FH's brother & my friend got engaged 2 years ago. For the entire 2 years they have been engaged they did not do any wedding planning.
FH & I got engaged in June. About 1 month before we got engaged his brother and my friend told us that they were planning a January wedding in Vegas. We thought that was great becasue then we could pick any day in 2009 that we wanted for our wedding. So FH & I get engaged in June and go right into planning our wedding. We chose Septemebr 26, 2009. Before we started booking anything we let his brother & fiancee know what date we were choosing. So we start booking and get into our wedding planning. In July they tell us that they want to get married on October 4, 2009 (the Sunday after my wedding) instead of January 2009 in Vegas. FH & I talked to them about this and explained how if they have their wedding the Sunday after ours they would really mess up our honeymoon. Sooooooo I just get an e-mail from my friend today (btw FH & I are in his brothers wedding and they are in ours) she e-mailed all of the bridesmaids....she finally nailed down a date for her wedding.....are you ready for this.....their wedding date is SEPTEMBER 5, 2009.....3 weeks before my wedding!!!! Seriously 3 weeks before it's sooooo messed up and I am soooo angry about this. If it was just my friends wedding I would not really care....but it's FH's brother's wedding. Plus they are having their wedding upstate so in addition to everything we need to pay for to be in their wedding we also have to spend money on hotel accomadations for 2 nights. I am just really angry and upset about this! Thanks for listening to my vent girls!!!!! xoxo

Cacarina Posted: Sep 05, 2008 10:44 AM

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Whoa, that is freaken annoying. I am sorry!!!

JJC Posted: Sep 05, 2008 10:45 AM

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that sux....i know it may seem childish to get mad about it but it is kind of rude after you made all the effort to keep them in the loop with all your planning to avoid this! i hope all works out for you!

JamieAnt06202009 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 10:47 AM

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Wow that;s really messed up. So sorry you have to go through this.

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 10:55 AM

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Ok you have every right to be angry! I would be sooooo pissed off! Its not fair. What do your FILS have to say about it???

ace730 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 10:57 AM

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Oh wow! I would be sooo pissed! I am also curious to know what ur inlaws said?

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 11:03 AM

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I am sorry. People are insensitive.

littlepixie12 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 11:11 AM

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WOW! I dont even know what to say about that. That means that she will be on her honeymoon when she should be going to final fittings and stuff for her dress. Thier wedding sounds like its going to be pulled together at the last minute. I hope it works out for you, but they dont have much time to book. Dont worry maybe the hall they want to book wont have the day they want

baba022 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 11:11 AM

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OMG!! I would be soooooo pissed!!!!! Do you fil's have anything to say about this? Is there any way you guys can work something out for them to change the date??? Ughhh thats so annoying!!

Lisa909 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 11:19 AM

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Well...FH is 1 of 7 children so they are scattered all over the place. FMIL & 2 of the kids live down in FL; so it's going to be annoying for them to have to fly up to NY twice in 1 month. FIL's think it is really messed up and agree with me. They also do not like FH's brothers fiancee very much.

NickandTara426 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 11:22 AM

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Oh NO!!! That's not right!!! I'm sorry that they did that to you.

meara Posted: Sep 05, 2008 11:25 AM

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Ugh - that does suck . . it's amazing how 'rightfully' selfish we get. . I just heard my stepsister is planning on getting pregnant at a time that would put her due date one week away from my wedding. . I made my dad swear he would be at my wedding even if she was in labor. . is that wrong?? With my luck she would go into labor AT my wedding. . haha. .

VickiR510 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 11:29 AM

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WOW! Thats horrible! Its catually really obnoxious since you spoke with them abot it. I mean how ridiuclous are they? Speak to them both again tell them how financially hard this will be for you guys & the family really. maybe an early October wedding would be best or even July! This is so rude

littlepixie12 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 11:32 AM

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Posted by Lisa909

Well...FH is 1 of 7 children so they are scattered all over the place. FMIL & 2 of the kids live down in FL; so it's going to be annoying for them to have to fly up to NY twice in 1 month. FIL's think it is really messed up and agree with me. They also do not like FH's brothers fiancee very much.

Wow, so they probably wont change it. I know how to make them change the day. Tell your friend that they probably wont get the same gifts that they would have gotten if the weddings were more spread apart. Because you are basically inviting the same guests from his side and all those guests will need to give gifts for two weddings in the same month, so they will probably give less than they usually would because of that fact. It might change her mind.

flairforfashion Posted: Sep 05, 2008 11:35 AM

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Lord that's terrible. I can't believe how selfish some people are! For some reason, when one gets engaged and another does- it becomes a race. It's ridiculous! I never understood it. But that's what happens. People have to get married before some people and it's like okay, give me a break! I hope this works out for you. It's so terrible how people don't care about others sometimes.

flairforfashion Posted: Sep 05, 2008 11:36 AM

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Posted by littlepixie12

Posted by Lisa909

Well...FH is 1 of 7 children so they are scattered all over the place. FMIL & 2 of the kids live down in FL; so it's going to be annoying for them to have to fly up to NY twice in 1 month. FIL's think it is really messed up and agree with me. They also do not like FH's brothers fiancee very much.

Wow, so they probably wont change it. I know how to make them change the day. Tell your friend that they probably wont get the same gifts that they would have gotten if the weddings were more spread apart. Because you are basically inviting the same guests from his side and all those guests will need to give gifts for two weddings in the same month, so they will probably give less than they usually would because of that fact. It might change her mind.

This is not a bad idea!

Suzanner Posted: Sep 05, 2008 03:08 PM

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It's not in my nature to judge.....

But that is just an unbelievably low class move.

For some reason, (I'm embarrassed to admit this, because I feel so sexist), I feel like it's her decision. Can your FH talk to his brother and ask him what the hell is up, and get him to change her mind? Are your FH's parents helping with the costs? Because I think that's pretty demanding to expect that they help pay for weddings that are three weeks apart.

Best of luck, both with the wedding plans, and with your future in-laws.

PROBM Posted: Sep 05, 2008 03:15 PM

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sorry but everything will work out . we are here to vent to

jbabidoll23 Posted: Sep 05, 2008 03:19 PM

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I am sorry you have to go through this. That is so selfish on their part. Talk to FH maybe he can talk to his brother and ask him to make it like 3 weeks after yours.