vent/sad...

Girls, I posted about my Mom a while ago. She's still really really sick (kudos to a surgeon that ruined her life while performing a laproscopic hernia surgery). There is no way she can come to the wedding. I've tried to reason with her for the last 3 months - I'm really ok with postponing it. But she is adamant that we go on with it. I'm absolutely devastated. I;m at the point were I don't care about it at all. I could careless about 1 thing about it. I feel like its going to be the worst day of my life. While I'm supposed be to enjoying myself, my Mom will be an hour away lying in a hospital bed. (I'm 100% sure that she wants me to be married and not postpone it in case something happens to her).

Just a vent.....I had to actually say it. Thanks

Im so sorry

This may sound odd, but can they set up like a live feed so that she can watch your wedding as its happening?

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Posted by smrsun

Im so sorry

This may sound odd, but can they set up like a live feed so that she can watch your wedding as its happening?

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really good idea...like on say yes to the dress!

is there anyway you can set up a live video thing in her room so that she can 'be there' too? Do you have a videographer who might know how to do this? I'm sure there's got to be a way in this day and age!!

i am so sorry to hear that...i know u want more than anything for her to be there but u know she will be with u even if she cant be there because she just wants u to be happy..i know the last thing u want to hear is all this stuff bout how it will be ok but it will be she will be thinking of u as u will of her..

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Posted by MakingofaMulligan

I was thinking that, but I can't let her see it without me. We will bring her the video the next day.

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that is a nice thing to do...and even though she wont be there in person...she will be in your heart...believe me....you have to be happy that day because it will only upset her more...do it for mom...enjoy your day

Sorry for the vent, I think I just needed to basically get out there. I hate the surgeon that did this to her and that is still practicing medicine on LI.

He took away so much of our lives

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Posted by JJC

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Posted by MakingofaMulligan

I was thinking that, but I can't let her see it without me. We will bring her the video the next day.

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that is a nice thing to do...and even though she wont be there in person...she will be in your heart...believe me....you have to be happy that day because it will only upset her more...do it for mom...enjoy your day

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thats what she says everyday. 'Do it for me'

Girls - thanks. Sometimes I just need to talk to brides!!!!!

Kate I am sorry to hear. I kept her in my mind hoping that she'd be there. I have an idea that a cousin of mine actually did for her Grandma. She got married as scheduled and her Grandma couldn't be there. So my cousin put on her dress again along with the groom in his tux and they had their Priest re-new the vows in Grandma's room. She loved it! Maybe you could consider this?

I am so sorry!!! I would feel the same as you if my mom was not able to be there.

Please don't appologize for the vent. That is what we are here for.

Your mom will be there in spirit and I know that it is not the same!!

She wants you to go and have a beautiful day. Is it possible that you can stop by and see her on the way?

for you

Maybe we could do that?!?!? Great idea.

thinking of launching on the dress and such the next day to surprise her.

Wow that is absolutely awful. I totally understand I would feel the exact same way if it were my mom! I hope you are going to be ok. If there is anything we can do please let us know! I am so sorry!

I am really sorry. I can't even imagine how hard that is for you...but your mom wants you to get married and be happy and will be there with you in your heart no matter what. She will want to see all your beautiful pictures where you look so happy and your video! Also on the day of can you stop in so she can see you in your wedding dress?




ETS: I just saw its an hour away...

You girls are awesome, and literally I already feel better. It just eats away at me sometimes. And my family is all like suckit up, do it for her - you'll be fine.

But you all know what its like. I appreciate the thoughts. Just keep me in your prayers that I don't carry on like a banshee and cry off all my makeup walking down the aisle and then look like an animal/lunatic at the reception!!!

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Posted by MakingofaMulligan

Maybe we could do that?!?!? Great idea.

thinking of launching on the dress and such the next day to surprise her.

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My Great Aunt (My Cousin's Grandma) LOVED it. She was so delighted to see her in her wedding dress all done up.