This is long so stay with me. My FH and best man went to ST maartin for the BC party. I knew nothing of this his friend never said a word to me about a week long getaway for the BC party. My FH's best man is married to a sneaky little witch.Who I and a lot of other people think she gets off on other men (husbands friends) thinking she is Mrs together and terrific. My FH tried to force me two years ago to start my Daycare with her. she was a legal secretary with two very badly behaved kids always crying to me about how she could not control them. Why would I want her to be my partner. I was and will always be a teacher. I have my degree and NYS certification. I've been a teacher for three years. Yet she was telling My FH to tell to me try this website or get this book or do this and do that. Sadly he was repeating this nonsense back to me. We almost broke up over this 2 years ago. I had to call her and tell her. Listen stay out of me and my man business. You are causing problems in my house. I don't want a business partner because I don't need one and can't afford to pay any one else right now anyway. I also told my FH he was wrong for listening to a woman other than his own on a personal house hold topic! I though the drama was done with this B****. I find out before he leaves Tuesday that she paid for this ticket to ST Martin on her credit card. What is that! As a woman why would you encourage that. Knowing that he would be gone for a week. What if there is stuff to be done for the wedding? Why not give a little something for our honeymoon! Am I crazy is this completely inappropriate or what?
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I don't understand why she's so involved with the bachelor party.....why couldn't anyone tell you that they were planning to take a week vacation for it...that's pretty sneaky of her....is she going to be related to you? You have every reason to be annoyed at her.....
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No she won't be. The bad part of it is Her husband is the only friend of my FH that I like. He is so in love with her. He doesn't see what I see. No one discussed it with me. Like I don't matter!
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Someone should have spoken with you about it b/c what if you had more wedding plans to sort out.......do you by the way...if so, thats really fd up!!!!
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We are wedding date twins! I have plenty to do!
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I hear ya.......I meeting with the florist on Saturday morning for our final payment and next week my fh and I need to meet with our priest for one last time before the rehearsal....After that, all the craziness is finished... What's left for you?
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To do: Pick up wedding dress Final payment for the Hall Final payment for the Florist Two FG dresses Toasting flutes Card box ( for gifts) Wine bottles as favors to be wrapped in cellophane by me. My money is very thin right now!
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I understand...we're trying to be so careful with our spending right now.....Maybe some of your bridesmaids can help you with wrapping the favors that way you don't have to do everything yourself...........where are you going on your honeymoon?????
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I'm going to Aruba and Fh is going to hell No, I'm really angry. But we are both supposed to go to Aruba. He claims his money is tight. Yet he went to ST. Maarten!
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HAHAHAHAHHAHAA...your funny!!!!!! I'm going to Aruba too....my fh isn't in hell yet, but maybe he needs some time
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You have every right to be annoyed since money is tight.....but don't stress....everything will turn out fine Maybe you can go out and pamper yourself this weekend---get a pedicure or something----or go to the beach to give yourself time to relax and focus on you
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Iwould be so annoyed. Why the hell is she paying for your man's trip and why werent u informed. This is so wrong. I would tell him to go to Hell to and then tell her to refund the charges back to her credit card. This is crossing over the friggin line now.
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To be honest with you I am not sure why youare mad a this woman instead of your FH, why didn't he tell you that he was going away for a week??
As far as paying for his ticket, he is the guest of honor, doesn't the bridal party pay for the groom?? what I am trying to say is , yes the card is probably in her name but since she is married to your Best man, why don't you look at it as the Best man is paying for your FH's trip?? since her money is his money.
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I am mad at FH very mad. I just brought her up because this is the second time she butted in our business. Her husband is on a 60 days suspension from work. She does not work. She's too good for that! If the best man could not afford it. My Fh shoud have said no thanks guys we are having trouble paying for our HM whatever you were going to contribute. Put it towards that! Oh I'm mad at My Fh. I just can't use that language on here.
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your fh should have not accepted the trip if he knows that the bestman is having money troubles....thats taking advantage...he should have told them to come up with another idea for something local---or even go to Atlantic City---it wouldn't involve a whole week long trip (considering he's gonna be leaving for Aruba in about 2 weeks).....he should really have discussed it with you---and he should not be mad at you for being angry at him...
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This sounds completely fishy IMHO. Why is FH keeping this information from you about his bachelor party? I am all for destination BP, but 1 week away so close to the wedding is too much. I would talk with your FH. It would make me feel very uncomfortable that information regarding my FH plans was being kept from me.
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Posted by Sunrise813
To be honest with you I am not sure why youare mad a this woman instead of your FH, why didn't he tell you that he was going away for a week??
As far as paying for his ticket, he is the guest of honor, doesn't the bridal party pay for the groom?? what I am trying to say is , yes the card is probably in her name but since she is married to your Best man, why don't you look at it as the Best man is paying for your FH's trip?? since her money is his money.
is anyone else confused? Did that post make sense to anyone?
I don't quite understand your problem with this woman. But whatever problems you have, is between you and your FH. He's a grown boy and makes his own decisions. So if he went or is going on this trip, than he made that decision and whether he told you about it or not, he made that decision as well.
I get that you don't like this woman. But i don't know why because your post was a bit jumbled IMO. Like someone mentioned above, her husband is the best man and so what if her card was used (all of our credit cards are in my name because i have the best credit with the most limit). I think that you're taking your stress out on this woman unstead of taking it out on your FH. Plus if this person bothers you so much, why don't you sit down with her and discuss it?
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Posted by Sunrise813
To be honest with you I am not sure why youare mad a this woman instead of your FH, why didn't he tell you that he was going away for a week??
As far as paying for his ticket, he is the guest of honor, doesn't the bridal party pay for the groom?? what I am trying to say is , yes the card is probably in her name but since she is married to your Best man, why don't you look at it as the Best man is paying for your FH's trip?? since her money is his money.
is anyone else confused? Did that post make sense to anyone?
I don't quite understand your problem with this woman. But whatever problems you have, is between you and your FH. He's a grown boy and makes his own decisions. So if he went or is going on this trip, than he made that decision and whether he told you about it or not, he made that decision as well.
I get that you don't like this woman. But i don't know why because your post was a bit jumbled IMO. Like someone mentioned above, her husband is the best man and so what if her card was used (all of our credit cards are in my name because i have the best credit with the most limit). I think that you're taking your stress out on this woman unstead of taking it out on your FH. Plus if this person bothers you so much, why don't you sit down with her and discuss it?
I have spoken to her about it. That is why I don't like her. She is in my business again. Yes he went on his own accord. I never said they held a gun to his head. We have a one year old and two stepchildren. He left town like he was sixteen with no kids or responsibilties. My Post was jumbled because I'm upset. I needed to vent like many of you ladies do. My fh best man owns four houses his credit is fine! She does not work. If she was really my friend like she pretends to be she could have gave me a heads up. Fh definetly should have. I've already blasted him last night!
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If my FH took off for a week for his BP without telling me that was what he up to, I would be tempted to kick his arse to the curb.
First, I would wonder why FH felt the need to lie or keep a secret of that magnitude.
Second, I would wonder where FH got the money from. We are paying for this ourselves, and if FH all of a sudden had money to go away for a week I would question where it came from or what wedding thing he was now not going to pay for because he was going to be OOT for a week.
and third, I would wonder what FH's relationship with this woman is/was that he gives her word any amount of credibility whatsoever.
As for the woman, if her only connection to my FH was through BM I would crush her like a bug. If it was more, then I would examine the situation very closely.
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The trip itself is not inappropriate (IMO) but hiding it from you purposely DEFINITLEY is!
