fh and I has pd. for our whole wedding ourselves, my mother just called screaming at me that $ 128.00 is to much for my dad's tux. and hung up on me. after telling me that I think mine and fh sh*t dont stink because we have money, ahhh we both work very hard and killer hours. secondly my poor dad, I know he dont feel this way, he takes a lot from her. should I offer to pay, or will I be over stepping my boundaries? I am just sooo upset.
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I am so sorry--that was def out of line for her to say. As a gesture to your dad, I guess that you can offer to pay. I really hope that your mother calms down and just pays it.
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Before you offer to pay, I would talk to him privately and find out what's really going on.
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OMG I cant believe she did that. Thats ridiculous and you shouldnt stand for her talking to you like that. Wait til she calms down and have a talk with her. Did she buy her dress yet??? Cause if she hasnt I hope its not too expensive or youre gonna have to hear it again!
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Wow, so sorry. I would be upset too if it happened to me. A similar thing happened with my FMIL. She asked FH to pick out a shower gift for me and he picked out something he really wanted and it was more on the expensive side, but considering FH and I were paying for the entire wedding and they haven't been asked to put in anything towards the wedding, I guess FH figured she would want to be more generous with the shower gift, but unfortunately we guessed wrong. She told him what he picked was too expensive and they he had to pick something cheaper and when FH told me at first I was upset, but after giving it some thought I realized that I I had to be understanding that his mom doesn't work anymore and so its not like she has a large income. So with that said, I don't know your parents financial situation, but maybe thats why your mom was upset about the pricing of the tux rental. I would talk to her about it and ask if you'd like to come to a compromise on it. HTH
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fh and I has pd. for our whole wedding ourselves, my mother just called screaming at me that $ 128.00 is to much for my dad's tux. and hung up on me. after telling me that I think mine and fh sh*t dont stink because we have money, ahhh we both work very hard and killer hours. secondly my poor dad, I know he dont feel this way, he takes a lot from her. should I offer to pay, or will I be over stepping my boundaries? I am just sooo upset.
and fh and I live very conservatively, we take sure cuts we save we have a few cd's. you would think she would be proud. the most money we have spent, is building our new home, gosh I could scream.
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Oh wow! I would be really upset too! Maybe you can talk to your Dad about it and maybe he should then talk to your Mom. If that doesn't work then I might offer to pay for it.
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I'm so sorry I would talk to your dad privately and let him know what your mom said and that you'd be happy to pay for his tux if HE feels that it's too much for him to afford.
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I thought everything was falling into place so nicely then this,
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Posted by catsgirl
I thought everything was falling into place so nicely then this,
Dont let it get you down. Stay positive. Your mom had no right to do that to you. Dont let her ruin your day. You did nothing wrong.
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Posted by Songstress
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I thought everything was falling into place so nicely then this,
Dont let it get you down. Stay positive. Your mom had no right to do that to you. Dont let her ruin your day. You did nothing wrong.
Thank You, I dont know if I should mention this to fh or not.
alissa5517
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Well she definitely handled it wrong, but I think you need to talk to each of them to find out why she feels this way.
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Sorry to hear that!
$128 doesn't sound like a lot for a tux to me...what's the average price? If you don't mind me asking...how much is your mom paying for her dress?
You can ask you mom to find a tux at a price she's comfortable with...so what if it's not the exact same style as the others?
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Posted by Annoulak
Sorry to hear that!
$128 doesn't sound like a lot for a tux to me...what's the average price? If you don't mind me asking...how much is your mom paying for her dress?
You can ask you mom to find a tux at a price she's comfortable with...so what if it's not the exact same style as the others?
I thought that was a great price, and when I first told her the cost, she acted as if it werent a problem. as for her dress she is driving me nuts with that, I dont even want to get into that right now. sometimes I wish i would have taken fh advice in the beginning and eloped. it would have been stress and grief free.
