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DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Sep 16, 2007 10:37 PM

we cancelled..

Our reception-dont want to say too much the RH's tend to come on here and sneek a peek. We just couldnt afford it...plain and simple.

THATS why i wasnt on the past few days.Plus I wasnt feeling well.Anyway, we've decided that we rushed into booking and we want to enjoy our engagement, because the stress started as soon as we booked because we knew we were in over our heads with a wedding that was pushing a 50K budget when just the two of us were paying for it. We never had problems living together for the past year till we had to make monthly payments. If it was every 6 months, i think it would have been a different story.

We're still together, engaged, just not looking for a while. taking a little bit of a break-but our date is going to be the same, just not the same hall! We're deciding over a destination wedding, or a smaller reception..and in the afternoon.

If anyone knows of any places alot less than where I was booked, please fm me the info when you get a chance

Thanks girls!

soonT0beMrsD Posted: Sep 16, 2007 10:49 PM

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aww im sorry to hear that. but its good that you came to a decision now that you may be in over your heads. we are still waiting too. we need to figure out exactly all of our finances and get pricing from all our vendors before booking anything. we arent in a rush to get married. we have been together so long its just like putting a title on our relationship. we dont want to bury ourselves in bills either. so dont worry, i think you did the right thing.

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Sep 16, 2007 10:52 PM

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I hope I did. Im just really bummed out about it right now. I wish I could have gotten married there, but hey we would have been in serious debt. We said we would rather be in a buttload of debt over a house than one day. Its a horrible way to think, but i have to keep convincing myself that!!!

We;ll find another place, we just cant go too crazy with it. Fh is being ok with it too.He wants a destination wedding, im not sure though...we'll see!

tinadansr Posted: Sep 16, 2007 11:36 PM

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I hope everything works out for you! I think it's a great idea that you are taking your time with things!

Good luck!
We'll be here for ya!

ellyoxox Posted: Sep 16, 2007 11:58 PM

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i'm sorry to hear that. but it's better you realized now that you couldn't afford it rather than down the line and being in debt. i'm sure you will find another great place that is perfect for you!!

Ann 52409 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 07:26 AM

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sorry to hear that but, it will be better in the long run... It's good that you realized it now. You will find someplace perfect for you

DINAAMATUCCIO Posted: Sep 17, 2007 09:08 AM

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Well first I want to say that I'm sorry that you and FH were arguing because of that but thankfully you realized now that you couldnt do it before things got worse between you and FH and you guys were in major debt. this soounds so cliche but everything happens for a reason and maybe something else that fits you and FH better for your wedding will come along and you guys will have an amazing time anywhere you have it anyway ... best of luck with everything Donna!!

JKFris09 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 09:52 AM

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It's better that you realized earlier than later... when you are ready to book again consider an off time of the year or a daytime wedding (or both!) to save some money. Or if money is really tight look into one of those bulk packages that offer everything for one price. I know people that have done them and they're still very nice weddings.

NYMetsBride Posted: Sep 17, 2007 09:52 AM

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Sorry to hear this! But regardless of what you do, your wedding will be beautiful

novia26 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 10:56 AM

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Everything happens for a reason....when you do make a decision, I'm sure it will make you both happy not cause conflict...here are some hugs for you

MzHopesAlot Posted: Sep 17, 2007 11:50 AM

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Its good that you didn't try to push for it. My sisters having a 600 person wedding and regreting every minute of it. I feel terrible!

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 04:01 PM

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I'm not going to say sorry because there's nothing for you to be sorry or upset over. I know this must have been an extremely difficult decision, but it is probably the best one you'll ever make. It's so easy to think of a wedding as the most important day of your life and that you should be as extravagant as possible but when it comes down to it, it's ONE day. I think getting married is more about becoming married to that special person, not having a wild party that everyone is going to be talking about for years to come!

Your wedding will be beautiful and it will be the best day of your life because of who you will become: the man you love the most's wife. I feel the same way you do about being in debt with a mortgage instead of a wedding.

So instead of sorry, congratulations on being mature enough to realize what really matters to you most. I will be on the lookout for lower priced RHs for you.

And here's a hug in case you need one!

meli722 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 04:14 PM

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Everything happens for a reason, good luck on finding a new place, do whats best for you guys

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 04:21 PM

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Thanks everyone..I still feel like sh*t but I;ll be ok!

little34 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 06:17 PM

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GOOD LUCK!!! It is a tough decision to make but you are both doing the best thing for the relationship...let us know where you decide to go!!!

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 06:18 PM

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thanks guys, i definately will let you all know. we're not planning anything for another few months. this way i can really do the research and number crunching..

Summertimegal424 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 06:19 PM

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O NO thats so sad....but im glad that ur okay with it...im glad im not the only one on this chat that is taking a break and takin their time! im so glad!

Aristotelina Posted: Sep 17, 2007 06:20 PM

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I'm SO sorry to hear that, but on the bright side you p robably made the best decision ever!!

You will def find a more affordable place and enjoying a long engagement is definitely a good idea!! I'm waiting 2 years before my wedding so we could save too, so I totally hear you on that!! :)

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 06:49 PM

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Posted by COwens424

O NO thats so sad....but im glad that ur okay with it...im glad im not the only one on this chat that is taking a break and takin their time! im so glad!

you'd be surprised, we were ecstatic after the engagement and we never got a chance to enjoy the happiness that comes with it.

as soon as we cancelled, we said lets get sushi and had a great time at dinner. Things will get better, Its not so much him, just me being debbie downer-but what girl wouldnt be like that?

We'll get there one day at a time! LOL! I know we'll find something better. we're just going to put it off till January 08. We still want the same date, but we will see how it pans out. Seriously thanks everyone for the support! No one else understands! My friends are like and? So what?!

ilonka020 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 07:02 PM

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i totally understand where your comming from. Me and FH got so rapped up in the planning that we forgot that we got engaged. we focuses all of our energy on finding the perfect place and it was stressing the both of us out money wise and just overall. We decided to take a break prom palnning and just enjoy being engaged. I don't think we need to rush. You'll prob. find a place you love as much as u did the first one and it'll be the perfect wedding.