wedding canceled

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Posted by kristi313

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. but you seem to have a positive outlook on the situation. best of luck to you. remember we're all here anytime you need to chat!

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Posted by kristi313

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. but you seem to have a positive outlook on the situation. best of luck to you. remember we're all here anytime you need to chat!

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this was the hardest, yet smartest decision I have ever made. he was abusive for 2 years of our relationship. I just had this feeling he was pretending now to marry me, that once we were it'd come back. I don't see how a guy can change overnight with no therapy or medication. I'm just so happy to be out.

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by kristi313

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. but you seem to have a positive outlook on the situation. best of luck to you. remember we're all here anytime you need to chat!

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this was the hardest, yet smartest decision I have ever made. he was abusive for 2 years of our relationship. I just had this feeling he was pretending now to marry me, that once we were it'd come back. I don't see how a guy can change overnight with no therapy or medication. I'm just so happy to be out.

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by kristi313

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. but you seem to have a positive outlook on the situation. best of luck to you. remember we're all here anytime you need to chat!

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this was the hardest, yet smartest decision I have ever made. he was abusive for 2 years of our relationship. I just had this feeling he was pretending now to marry me, that once we were it'd come back. I don't see how a guy can change overnight with no therapy or medication. I'm just so happy to be out.

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by kristi313

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. but you seem to have a positive outlook on the situation. best of luck to you. remember we're all here anytime you need to chat!

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this was the hardest, yet smartest decision I have ever made. he was abusive for 2 years of our relationship. I just had this feeling he was pretending now to marry me, that once we were it'd come back. I don't see how a guy can change overnight with no therapy or medication. I'm just so happy to be out.

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good for you! i wish alot of other women were as smart as you.

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Posted by davenjess

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by kristi313

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. but you seem to have a positive outlook on the situation. best of luck to you. remember we're all here anytime you need to chat!

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this was the hardest, yet smartest decision I have ever made. he was abusive for 2 years of our relationship. I just had this feeling he was pretending now to marry me, that once we were it'd come back. I don't see how a guy can change overnight with no therapy or medication. I'm just so happy to be out.

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This was a HUGE step for you & it's in the 100% right direction!!! Without intervention of some sort - abuse won't stop.... Good for you for standing up for yourself!!!

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Posted by jennandrolo

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by kristi313

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. but you seem to have a positive outlook on the situation. best of luck to you. remember we're all here anytime you need to chat!

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this was the hardest, yet smartest decision I have ever made. he was abusive for 2 years of our relationship. I just had this feeling he was pretending now to marry me, that once we were it'd come back. I don't see how a guy can change overnight with no therapy or medication. I'm just so happy to be out.

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good for you! i wish alot of other women were as smart as you.

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I still wasted almost 3 years of my life. almost married him. it should have taken me sooner to realize things. he even hurt me at our own engagement party. that should have told me something.

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Posted by blu6385

i am so sorry to hear ... and i am glad you made the right decsion to leave an abusive relationship .. your best bet is to inform all your vendors now ... esp. the hall they can still probably book the date!

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by jennandrolo

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by kristi313

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. but you seem to have a positive outlook on the situation. best of luck to you. remember we're all here anytime you need to chat!

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this was the hardest, yet smartest decision I have ever made. he was abusive for 2 years of our relationship. I just had this feeling he was pretending now to marry me, that once we were it'd come back. I don't see how a guy can change overnight with no therapy or medication. I'm just so happy to be out.

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good for you! i wish alot of other women were as smart as you.

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I still wasted almost 3 years of my life. almost married him. it should have taken me sooner to realize things. he even hurt me at our own engagement party. that should have told me something.

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Posted by LoveRocks

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by jennandrolo

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by kristi313

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. but you seem to have a positive outlook on the situation. best of luck to you. remember we're all here anytime you need to chat!

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this was the hardest, yet smartest decision I have ever made. he was abusive for 2 years of our relationship. I just had this feeling he was pretending now to marry me, that once we were it'd come back. I don't see how a guy can change overnight with no therapy or medication. I'm just so happy to be out.

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good for you! i wish alot of other women were as smart as you.

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I still wasted almost 3 years of my life. almost married him. it should have taken me sooner to realize things. he even hurt me at our own engagement party. that should have told me something.

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Please don't think of it as a waste. As long as you learned from it and came away knowing that you deserved more, you did not waste 3 years.

Good luck with everything

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by jennandrolo

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Posted by kristi313

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. but you seem to have a positive outlook on the situation. best of luck to you. remember we're all here anytime you need to chat!

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this was the hardest, yet smartest decision I have ever made. he was abusive for 2 years of our relationship. I just had this feeling he was pretending now to marry me, that once we were it'd come back. I don't see how a guy can change overnight with no therapy or medication. I'm just so happy to be out.

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good for you! i wish alot of other women were as smart as you.

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I still wasted almost 3 years of my life. almost married him. it should have taken me sooner to realize things. he even hurt me at our own engagement party. that should have told me something.

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Posted by davenjess

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Posted by blu6385

i am so sorry to hear ... and i am glad you made the right decsion to leave an abusive relationship .. your best bet is to inform all your vendors now ... esp. the hall they can still probably book the date!

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YES & go to every single board here - BHB, 08 and 09 Brides and post an AVAILABLE DATE AT BLAH BLAH HALL thread! You never know - an '09er may really want to hang with the cool kids and become an '08er!!

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by poisonivy918

for personal reasons. we or I should say I decided to cancel the wedding. does anyone know if I have any chance at all, getting any deposits back? we gave $1800 for photo/video. $2400 for my dress. $600 for jewelry. $500 for dj. $500 to hall, then $3800. (these are all deposits) is anyone going to try to get more money out of me? do I need my ex fiance to cancel contracts? I feel horrible i've already wasted enough of my parents money. I don't want to waste anymore. I am just happy I did this now and not after we were married. somethings just aren't meant to be. our wedding was supposed to be April 18th 2008.

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OMG i am so sorry to hear this but you said its the best decision and at least glad that its something you are ok with and felt had to be done. Wish you the best

As far as deposits:

Dress-once its in production you owe the full balance, best bet is to sell it.

Hall-if they book your date then you can get it back but usually i know its partial what you can get, def call right away bc you want your date to get booked otherwise not only will you not get your deposit back but youll owe a percentage of what the wedding would've cost.

Dj, photo-see if someone can take over your contracts.

ALL this info is in every contract, its hard to say what you can get bc each vendor has different policies...but they have a cancellation policy in every contract that will answer all your questions...i know with some vendors if i did cancel i would still owe them the full balance

good luck

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I really want to keep my dress I still love it. I could use it one day. we were going to have our wedding at Jericho terrace.

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Posted by kristi313

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Posted by poisonivy918

you are such a brave girl, i give you ALOT of credit for being this strong. you can't beat yourself up about not realizing sooner, there obviously was something between you guys that made you want to marry him. it's not your fault he had issues. things happen for a reason, i know this will sound cheesy but this will make you stronger in the long run and make this particular situation never happen to you again! i'm sure everyone on here agrees that you're going to be absolutely fine!!!!!!

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thanks. it did take me along time though. he would cry & swear to change. yet he'd do it again. I had a feeling he now only stopped so he could marry me. he was also very controlling I literally had no life. once I started going out more last week he flipped out. that's when I saw I'd never have a normal life with him.