Re: Wedding dress blues
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Wedding dress blues
Original post by disneefan
Okay, so my wedding is about seven months away and I still don't have a dress. I am torn between a couple of dresses, but the biggest problem is me. I am my own worst critic. I am a plus size bride. I wear about a size 16 jeans so I have been trying on 16W and 18W dresses. They aren't so bad it's just that there are hardly any dresses out there with sleeves. It's like they don't exist anymore. Every dress is strapless or has spaghetti stirings. I don't like my fat arms.
I found a dress with short sleeves that is really beautiful with a gorgeous train. But I think I want to extend the sleeves to go past the elbow. I would just feel more comfortable if my arms were covered. But I am afraid that if they mess with the existing sleeves it will ruin the dress.
I am sorry I am babbling. Anyway, my question is do I ignore the critic in my head and go with the gorgeous dress that my sister and mother say I look great in, or do I get a strapless and try to find a bolero or other type of wedding jacket for it, or do I continue to look for a dress with the appropriate sleeves (which is extremely hard to find.)
I don't know I am just so confused. I have gone to so many different bridal stores and I think my inner voice is holding me back. HELP!
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I found a dress with short sleeves that is really beautiful with a gorgeous train. But I think I want to extend the sleeves to go past the elbow. I would just feel more comfortable if my arms were covered. But I am afraid that if they mess with the existing sleeves it will ruin the dress.
I am sorry I am babbling. Anyway, my question is do I ignore the critic in my head and go with the gorgeous dress that my sister and mother say I look great in, or do I get a strapless and try to find a bolero or other type of wedding jacket for it, or do I continue to look for a dress with the appropriate sleeves (which is extremely hard to find.)
I don't know I am just so confused. I have gone to so many different bridal stores and I think my inner voice is holding me back. HELP!
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Hey date twin, I would go with the dress you love and add a bolero if you're uncomfortable.
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Okay, I think I really found THE dress now. I have been searching feverishly since I posted this message originally. I tried this dress on today at Bridal Elegance in Dix Hills. Unfortunately she only had a size 12 sample. But I am going to call around to a bunch of stores tomorrow to see what sample sizes they have. It is perfect. It has a sweetheart neckline, off the shoulders, 3/4 length sleeve and beading on the top, bottom, back and train. I really hope I can find a sample that I can try on.
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OOhhh... show us pics if you can find any online!! So exciting!
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I thought I attached the picture of the dress. Let's try this again.
http://www.goweddingdresses.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=1_375&products_id=10795
http://www.goweddingdresses.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=1_375&products_id=10795
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Here you go:
it's lovely!
it's lovely!
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That's beautiful![]()
Glad it worked out. Try Lillettes in Baldwin. My sample was a size 16 and it had panels in the back to go bigger.
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Posted by LuckyMe
That's beautifulGlad it worked out. Try Lillettes in Baldwin. My sample was a size 16 and it had panels in the back to go bigger.
I have to agree with Lillette's my sample was also a size 18 and as I mentioned before I'm a street size 24. I was still able to try on the sample gown.
Btw- I love that gown that you were looking at.
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Wow that's pretty!!!!
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Love the dress!! I actually flagged it on theknot.com as one of my options so far.
Below are places that they listed on their site as carrying their dresses. Good luck!
PIZZAZZ CLOTHING EAST 1500 MIDDLE COUNTRY ROAD CENTEREACH NY (631) 698-8900
ELLE BELLE 1020 6TH AVE. NEW YORK NY (212) 391-4254
NEW GENESIS BRIDAL 1011 6TH AVE., 2ND FLOOR NEW YORK NY (212) 768-4410
0UTRAGEOUS 138 MANETTO HILL ROAD PLAINVIEW NY (516) 931-3331
Below are places that they listed on their site as carrying their dresses. Good luck!
PIZZAZZ CLOTHING EAST 1500 MIDDLE COUNTRY ROAD CENTEREACH NY (631) 698-8900
ELLE BELLE 1020 6TH AVE. NEW YORK NY (212) 391-4254
NEW GENESIS BRIDAL 1011 6TH AVE., 2ND FLOOR NEW YORK NY (212) 768-4410
0UTRAGEOUS 138 MANETTO HILL ROAD PLAINVIEW NY (516) 931-3331
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I am the same size as you and had the hardest time with a dress because i have the same arm issues!!! I can totally relate. I wasn't even enjoying looking for a dress b/c I felt that I wouldn't ultimatley feel comfortable or pretty in any of them. Granted, I am extrememly hard on myself, but I did want to feel confident.
I actually found a strapless dress by casablanca that i absolutley loved. It had lace details. turns out that casablanca is one of the few designers who will customize dresses. so, i had them custom make me a bolero jacket with 3/4 lenght sleeves out of the same lace on the dress. it cost about $200 additionally. It was the answer to all my frustrations and I'm absolutley and IN LOVE with my dress. I'd be happy to help you search around if you need help. FM me if you need to know anything else.
Bottom line...you know you'll look gorgeous. try to think positive (as hard as it can be!).
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I actually found a strapless dress by casablanca that i absolutley loved. It had lace details. turns out that casablanca is one of the few designers who will customize dresses. so, i had them custom make me a bolero jacket with 3/4 lenght sleeves out of the same lace on the dress. it cost about $200 additionally. It was the answer to all my frustrations and I'm absolutley and IN LOVE with my dress. I'd be happy to help you search around if you need help. FM me if you need to know anything else.
Bottom line...you know you'll look gorgeous. try to think positive (as hard as it can be!).
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Something that I didn't realize until I ordered my dress. If you're willing to pay a little extra, you can add whatever you want to your dress. If you want sleeves, see if they can add them for you.
ETA: Just read the rest of your posts. Glad you found a dress. congrats![]()
ETA: Just read the rest of your posts. Glad you found a dress. congrats
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this was my dress-it a big size dress-because of my boobs!
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I feel your pain. I'm a plus size bride too. I DREADED going wedding dress shopping. BUT, on a whim, I went to David's and it wasn't that bad, fat arms and all, I bought a strapless dress and the skinny girl next to me told me that I have beautiful shoulders and that I should be showing them off. So, no matter how hung up we are on parts of our bodies that we hate, some other people can see them as beautiful. Go dress shopping, bring someone with you that you trust. Someone that isn't going to yes you to death. When it comes down to your wedding day, everyone is NOT going to be looking at your arms.
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SO SO SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO GORGEOUS! I LOVE IT!! ![]()
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I literally called 19 different dress shops yesterday looking for that dress in a larger sample size. They were stores from Long Island and Weschester. No one even had the dress at all. One woman called Dere Kiang in Florida where they have two dresses, one in a 16 and one in 18. Obviously I am not going to Florida to try them on. I am thinjking of trying to find a dress maker who can make one like it from scratch or I can just order it in a 20 or 22 and have a seamstress alter it for me. I will keep you all updated. Again, thank you all for your comments and suggestions.
