Wedding Etiquette

hey girls. you guys know everything so im hoping you can help me with a quick question.

a girl friend of mine got invited to a wedding recently and they let her bring a guest. she asked me and i said yes. do i chip in for the gift or does my friend handle the gift/money aspect?

tia!

I think it's up to you. Personally, I would let the friend pick up the expense. But if you feel funny about it (which I don't think you should), talk with your friend.

FH and I used to have a rule - if it was his friend, he paid and vice versa.

That being said... have tons of fun at the wedding!

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Posted by robinandjoe

ooohhh, that's tricky. Do you know the bride and groom? Maybe if you feel that you need to chip in soemthing you could offer a small amount (especially if you dont know the bride and groom) and ask your friend to put it towards the gift....? Years ago, before I was dating FH, I went to a wedding and took a 'date', not a bf or anything, and did not ask him for any money towards the gift, even though he said let me give something. I felt weird taking it bc he had only met the bride once.

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actually, i do know the bride and groom. we went to college together but were not close and I havent talked or seen them since college.... i guess maybe i'll offer a little something and see what my friend says.

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Posted by L&R

I think it's up to you. Personally, I would let the friend pick up the expense. But if you feel funny about it (which I don't think you should), talk with your friend.

FH and I used to have a rule - if it was his friend, he paid and vice versa.

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That was our rule...your friend your dime....even when i brought a friend or a date I'd pay since i invited that guest.

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Posted by imas98

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Posted by L&R

I think it's up to you. Personally, I would let the friend pick up the expense. But if you feel funny about it (which I don't think you should), talk with your friend.

FH and I used to have a rule - if it was his friend, he paid and vice versa.

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That was our rule...your friend your dime....even when i brought a friend or a date I'd pay since i invited that guest.

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This is what I originally thought. Do I have to have this conversation with her, or just show up and not discuss at all and rely on her to handle it?

Thanks everyone for your input!

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Posted by L&R


FH and I used to have a rule - if it was his friend, he paid and vice versa.

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Me too.

I think that the person invited gives the gift. I don't think the guest is obligated to chip in.

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Posted by felicita

I would have a conversation with her about it. Can't hurt.

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I agree - if you are questioning it, then why not ask? But be prepared if she asks you to go in on the gift.