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One of my friends is getting married next week and I'm getting married next month. I'm in her wedding party and she's in mine. The question is, I know she really wants only money for her wedding, but I feel weird about giving her just a check because I know it will just end up coming back to me in a month. Should I get her a gift instead? Or should I give her a check for a lesser amount and buy a gift also?
I dont know if your would feel comfortable bringing this up to her...but I have 2 close friends who also got married this year...2 of us were each others BMs. The 3 of use decided not to give each other $$ for the weddings but to just give shower gifts. No one seemed to be offended and it was a huge burden lifted for all of us. If money is not the issue then I say give what you would give normally if u werent getting married.
Give her a check and yes it will come back but at the shower and/or engagement party you can give her a gift that is special.
Also the bachlorette party - you can help make that a great memorable experience.
My friend said her FI wanted to register for a DVD player, but she thought it would be tacky to do so. (I don't think so), but I looked and they hadn't registered for one. So I told her we would get one for them. Her FI was so happy. Maybe we'll get one for ours.
