Wedding gift question

FH's friends did a very private DW last month...NOBODY was invited. They knew they were doing that so they threw a huge engagement party last year in lieu of a reception. Now they are having a very informal bbq in celebration of their wedding. When the bride told me about it, she said 'No Gifts! We just want to have a party.'

We received the invitation, which is very informal on computer paper, but it does not indicate they do not want gifts. I feel I need to bring a gift. Should I give money or a gift from their registry? How much should I give/spend?

Agreed.
If she said no gifts i think that something for the BBQ is a great idea. If you feel compelled to give more, you can always get them something off the registry for their new home (housewarming gift) and give it at a later date. HTH

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Posted by lollipop
Now they are having a very informal bbq in celebration of their wedding. When the bride told me about it, she said 'No Gifts! We just want to have a party.'

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If she said no gifts, she probably means it - I know when I say no gifts I mean it and it would make me feel bad if people DID bring them. I don't know if I would have put it on the invite if I told everyone already. Can you find out a charity they like and donate in their name?? That is something that even if I say 'no gifts' would make me happy! If you really feel you want to bring something, maybe something small off their registry, or maybe something they can use at the BBQ like serving platters or like Michelle said a bottle of champage or wine...

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Posted by Tiggeruth

I would bring something from their registry.

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ditto. whether you want them or not--you never put any mention of gifts on an invite. i wouldn't be able to go empty handed...so get something small off the ole' registry!

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

Wedding invitations never mention gifts - whether it says 'no gifts' or 'in lieu of gifts...' etc. If the bride specifically told you no gifts, that means they don't want gifts. If you feel uncomfortable going empty-handed buy something off the registry or bring something to contribute to the BBQ. Homemade potato salad or something... HTH!

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I agree. Or a nice bottle of wine or something. If she said NO GIFTS, she means it.

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Posted by beaviss80

how bout a bottle of wine or champagne? and glasses to go with it?

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I think this is a great idea...so, if they really didn't want gifts, you're just contributing to their bbq. If they were expecting something, you've go that covered with the glasses, and maybe some wine charms

I would get something and leave it in the car just in case she is getting gifts, and i would also bring something for the BBQ this way your covered on both ends HTH
ETA: if she is not reciving gifts you can always return it!!!

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Posted by beaviss80

how bout a bottle of wine or champagne? and glasses to go with it?

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I would def bring a bottle of wine (changing from my org post of gift from registry) or even two bottles of wine, one red and one white, bring something you like and say you wanted to share your favs with them. Whenever i go to someone's house for a party or dinner we always bring wine, so its something they can either use then or later and it allevates the feeling that you came empty handed.

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Posted by MJDoc12

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Posted by Tiggeruth

I would bring something from their registry.

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ditto. whether you want them or not--you never put any mention of gifts on an invite. i wouldn't be able to go empty handed...so get something small off the ole' registry!

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I agree!