Wedding is Off (sort of)

So FH sat me down last night to talk about our upcoming nuptials. He proceeded to tell me that it didn't feel right. I immediately start having a heart attack because I thought we were breaking up . When we became engaged, it wasn't what he envisioned it to be. He kind of just sent our daughter to me and she asked me. I went out and bought the e-ring. I picked it out and he gave me the money. Totally not romantic but I didn't mind because he's not the romantic type. After all this I took it and ran with the planning. Now he says that he would prefer to go out and pick a ring himself and do the whole down on bended knee thing in front of a whole bunch of people. He asked for the ring back and he's going to trade it in for something bigger and better and then surprise me. So who knows when we'll actually going to get married. I know it will happen eventually and I'm completely OK with it. I'm happy as long as we're together, happy and healthy.

So I'll be lurking and congratulating and laughing right along with everyone when it comes time for their weddings this year but I don't know which will be my year.

Thanks for reading this and sorry it was sooo long.

Ileana

Oh Ilenea,

It sounds pretty sad and upsetting for you right now......but I think everything will work out just the way you want as long as you give him some time.


Good Luck.....and you know you are always welcome on LIW! We love ya!



-Paige

You sure FH does not have a taste of Cold Feet? It happens.

But at least you are still willing to work with him and be patient until he is ready...just dont wait too too long....

we are all here for you !!!

you still owe us an intro to your wonderful daughter

I'm sorry to hear your plans are delayed. Hopefully your FH will surprise you with a romantic proposal very quickly!

I'm glad you'll be staying with us in the meanwhile though! Best of luck to you.

Sorry your plans are delayed. Stay strong, things have a way of working themselves out.

Im' not sure what to say. Are you excited? Sad? Goodness, I feel bad that things worked out this way but am glad that you found yourself a romantic guy You better keep us up to date the minute he proposes, you have to stop him and let him know you need to get on the boards to tell your girls. We'll be waiting!

You will now have the romantic proposal you can talk about!

The engagement and your wedding, will be beautiful!

I am sorry to hear that. But at the same time I truly admire him for doing what he is doing. Think of it this way, he wants to do things the right way. I would totally respect any man that made that choice. You are not losing him so you cant be sad. Let him do what he feels is the right thing to do and your day will come. In a way I would be happy because in the end you will have a wonderfully romantic story to tell your children and grandchildren one day!

please do not leave the boards!!!!!!

good luck with everything!

hi ileana! i'm so sorry this had to be this way, but that's nice of fh to want to do things 'the right way' or at least the way he envisioned.

we're always here for you!

Thats an interesting situation, but good luck! Things have a way of working out though.

At first I thought you broke up but hey I think its wonderful that he wants to do the romantic proposal!!! I cant wait to hear about it! And you know you are already a part of the 05 crew so you should continue to post no matter what year the wedding ends up happening. Good luck!

Thanks for all of the good wishes. I'm doing better than I thought I would be. Like I said before he's not the romantic type so I was extremely and pleasantly surprised when he told me all of that stuff. I would prefer to wait and get a proposal that we both will cherish and remember. I think our families are more disappointed than I am. Maybe by then we can have the wedding for 300 his mother - who doesn't want tp pay for anything - wanted.

Thanks again.

Ileana, if he needs to do this his way - just let him. My FI is the exact same way. Things have to be done in a certain way and time frame for him. At least he has a way of wanting to change it and not get out of marriage. It may delay things for a bit, but let it be a 'family' effort and a romantic one to boot!