Wedding Party dilemma...

Ok, I've been talking on this board about having a Kings Court Wedding. Recently we've been taking into consideration of having a regular bridal party. I'm not sure what I want anymore. I think that if we go with a Kings Wedding, then it'll upset people. I know it's our wedding but I don't want that to be bothering me on our wedding day. Anyway, our guest list will be about 100 people. Now if we have bridesmaids, that would be 7 people standing on my side and 7 people standing on my Fiance side. That's including everyone so we don't hurt anyone. Now isn't that way too many people to have with only 100 people on the guest list??? We have decide what we're doing by next weekend because we're going up to NY and we'll have the opportunity to ask everyone then to be in the wedding party. What do you girls think??? Thanks again!!!

Wedding Party dilemma...Martha Says....

From Martha Stewart: 'Number of Attendants If you’re looking for concrete numbers, there is one helpful guideline to follow. When groomsmen act as ushers, the preferred ratio is one for every fifty guests. Many couples will choose the number of bridesmaids accordingly—for symmetry at the altar and in photo-graphs—but the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen need not match. The extra men or women may walk down the aisle alone or in pairs, or one groomsman may escort two bridesmaids, or two groomsmen one bridesmaid. In this case, it’s important to ensure that the aisle is wide enough to accommodate a trio. For a small, intimate gathering, one or two attendants on each side may be just right. There may be only a best man and a maid or matron of honor, or no wedding party all—just the bride and groom walking down the aisle arm in arm. For a larger, more elaborate celebration, a couple will typically want to be surrounded by a big group, in keeping with the pomp and circumstance of the occasion. Four to six on each side is common, but couples are still known to have as many as twelve bridesmaids and twelve groomsmen. '

Wedding Party dilemma...

It does seem like a lot of attendants for a wedding with 100 guests. I was in a similar situation and decided that I was only going to ask those who were closest to me. It was hard excluding certain people but this is your wedding day. Good Luck!

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It would be such a hard decision because my fiance grew up with all the guys on his side. The girls I would pick would be the same to me. I didn't grew up with them but have known them the same time and I'm just as close to them as anyone else. I know if we pick only a few of them then the others I think would say it's ok, but they'll be upset inside. This is too hard of a decision. This S***S!!!

Wedding Party dilemma...

Who cares how many attendants you have? Have however many you want! If you have 100 people and 50 in your wedding party, it should not matter. It is your wedding and your decision. Don`t let the numbers game stop you from having what you want.

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I have 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen plus the BM and MOH. I only have about 130 people. But honestly I cant help it, they all are important to me

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I agree with Carrie.....

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I think you should sit down with everyone and let them know that they are causing you incredible anguish, during what should be the happiest time of your life. Perhaps they really do not realize just how much they are hurting you. Then you should tell them that you love them all, but you are doing things the way you originally planned. Stick to your guns, put your foot down (your fiance should too)and let them know, in a nice way, that the subject is no longer open to discussion. This is easier said than done, but you will feel better and have your wedding the way you want it to be. If your families really love you and want what is best for you they will accept your decision. Good luck and let us know how it all works out.

Wedding Party dilemma...From a former bride.

I don't think that it matters how many people a wedding party consists of. For me I had 9 BM and 9 GM (including MOH and BM, my hubbies father) and we had 180 guests. Those are the people who are most important to BOTH of us! (Obviously besides family) That is what is most important. Do what you feel is right and don't regret anything it is YOUR DAY AS A NEW FAMILY!! LOL (or hubby and wife, but I like new family because that is what you are beginning that day!)

Amen Carrie!

I was having the same dilemma. Including MOH and family I am having 7 and my fiance is having 5. People were telling me 7 was too much since I am having around 140 guests...but after stressing soooo much I decided I would rather have too many than regret it becuse I listened to someone. It is our day to shine and if it makes you happy to have close friends around you and you are lucky enough to have so many special people then go for it! do what you know you can live with. good luck!