Westbury Manor Brides and MD Tip...

What were you told was your suggested tip for the MD and BA??

they told me that it was $4-$5 per adult for the MD and $50-$100 for the BA.

Im cool with the BA tip, but the MD tip seems pretty hefty. I read through some of the tipping threads and every hall is different, i know, and some halls are the $4-$5 range.
BUT i read from a WM bride that they told her $1-$2 per adult..... so i need clarification please!

thanks!

so you're saying I need to give the MD ONE THOUSAND DOLLARS?!?!! o-m-g.

what exactly does the MD do? no joke, what does he/she do, lol...

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Posted by BrideAS

so you're saying I need to give the MD ONE THOUSAND DOLLARS?!?!! o-m-g.

what exactly does the MD do? no joke, what does he/she do, lol...

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Yeah this is giving me an anxiety attack!!!! On top of a 20% service fee we have to tip all of this extra money? Sounds INSANE to me.

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Posted by wiggleit28

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Posted by BrideAS

so you're saying I need to give the MD ONE THOUSAND DOLLARS?!?!! o-m-g.

what exactly does the MD do? no joke, what does he/she do, lol...

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Yeah this is giving me an anxiety attack!!!! On top of a 20% service fee we have to tip all of this extra money? Sounds INSANE to me.

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its insane! our tip is suggested to be inbetween $728 to $910!!!!!

Okay, this post is totally stressing me out! There is no way that I can afford to tip my MD that much money! Ahhhhhh

I plan on tipping my MD $200-$250 depending on what kind of job I think he did. I am having a small wedding prob. like 80 people. BA I will tip $100-$150.

Does anyone know if we have to tip the valet and bartenders...or is that included? I am too stressed to try and interpret the contract.

The BA was by my side the entire wedding. She made sure we ate and drank all day. She did my bustle. She sewed my husband's button back onto his jacket! She held my train up and held my bouquet as we walked around taking pictures. She really took care of us.

The MD is there to make sure that everything runs smoothly and that you're happy with everything. She coordinates with the florist, the DJ, the limo and all the staff. She makes sure your groom is not outside or in the bathroom when the DJ announces it's time for the mother son dance. LOL. Seriously though, she worked hard from before we even got there to the moment we left. The MD is pretty much a DOC.

I also stressed out about having to tip all our vendors, but when I saw how hard they were all working and what a great job they did I had no problem paying them extra.

In regards to the valet, waitstaff, bartenders and bathroom attendants, our BM told us we did not have to tip them. It's up to you if you want to, but usually the guests throw them a few bucks.

Hope this helps!

I will definitely appreciate they're help - but why should the amount of guests dictate their tip if they're only coordinating between me, FH, and the vendors?

Grr.

I haven't even thought about this yet... yikes! I still have to incorporate this into our budget

We were told $3-$5 pp for the maitre 'd and about $50 to 100 for the BA but were also told to start at the minimum and if you feel they did a great job add more.

I have to say even though we added money to each person at the end of the night, it still was not enough. Pam and Naomi did such an excellent job with everything and made us feel like family. I was so sad to leave at the end of the night. They were well worth the money

I've posted this before but it seems fitting to do it once again...

. Let me tell you skeptics a little bit about what your Maitre'd is doing behind the scenes on the day of your wedding...
The MD is the one running the entire show, making sure the food is coming out ontime, talleying & submitting the dinner orders to the kitchen, fighting with the Chef because cousin Ernie has a stange dietary restriction so he cant have anything with vitamin A in it, managing all waitstaff to ensure their not in the backyard all night taking cigarette breaks, running around the place finding out where your Mother left her antique shawl, meeting with your dj, photo & video to ensure they are all on the same time line so theres no miscommunication and your party doesnt end up on YOU TUBE. Coordinating the line up for the introductions & ceremony (if on site.) - its sooo much fun trying to command the attention of close to 12 half drunk groomsman , in charge of setting up ALL those belongings you dropped off at the hall for them to set up, escpecially those wonderful homemade centerpieces that have 12 different components that require your maitre'd to come in 2 hours earlier to start setting up becuase you thought making the centerpieces yourself from scratch would be better than going to a florist, going from table to table asking each of your guests how their dinner was & if they need anything than running back & forth like a crazy person in order to get Great Aunt Marge some splenda. fighting with the chef because you want dinner served 10 minutes later than originally thought because Grandpas speech is running overtime, & finally fighting with your parents because 3 more meals were served & these need to be collected for but dear old Dad is 3 sheets to the wind & insistant that the completly accurate grid indicating how many beef, chicken fish were served is WRONG!!! & Finally after nearly 7 hours of running around like a crazy person to ensure your day was a success, they get handed an evelope with 200 dollars in it, when your party had 250 guests. Then to boot on message boards like this people post things like 'I never even saw my Maitre'd all night', well news flash: they were running around all night, & if you had seen them all night, IT MEANT THEY WERENT DOING THEIR JOB. Have a great Nigh Girls!!!