What are some things you think women should do/accomplish before getting married???

Original post by julz33

Jan 30, 2004 08:07 PM

I have lots of ideas. I'll post only one for now because I want to see what you all have to say!

* Go on vacation with a bunch of girlfirends!

RedHead Posted: Jan 30, 2004 08:53 PM

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to learn that you are not always right...and the subtle art of compromise

this is what went wrong in my 2nd serious relationship...both of us would never say we were wrong nor would we settle for less than eacj of us wanted..(even if it was completely stupid)

Moehick Posted: Jan 30, 2004 09:01 PM

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1. Appreciate who you are and waht you have to offer
2. Educate yourself
3. Live apart from parents
4. travel, esp with girlfriends
5. Break hearts and have heart broken
6. Be financially independent...know how to pay bills, get bargains
7. Learn to cook(still working on this one)!

RedHead Posted: Jan 30, 2004 09:04 PM

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Posted by Moehick

1. Appreciate who you are and waht you have to offer
2. Educate yourself
3. Live apart from parents
4. travel, esp with girlfriends
5. Break hearts and have heart broken
6. Be financially independent...know how to pay bills, get bargains
7. Learn to cook(still working on this one)!

I like those
I still have to work on 7 too. But my fh cooks

KathleenG Posted: Jan 30, 2004 09:07 PM

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For me, that is really simple. I always wanted to find my career or at least a job that I was happy and secure!! My mom gave me this advice many years ago. Unfortunately, many dead end jobs later, it hasn't happened for me yet!!

AtticaQT Posted: Jan 30, 2004 09:14 PM

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Posted by julz33

* Go on vacation with a bunch of girlfirends!

I'm going to do this! The girls and I are going to SPAIN! in august! I cant wait!

cocoa Posted: Jan 30, 2004 09:18 PM

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oh, i got one. learn how to accept being alone. learn how to enjoy your own company. this is huge!!!

valentinesbride Posted: Jan 30, 2004 09:51 PM

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I completely agree. Spending time alone and actually appreciating it. I have no issues or qualms when FH, is out and I am not. I know how to entertain myself. I have a career. I have dated many many guys that were wrong for me....i know that the grass is NOT greener on the other side of the fence. Fh and I have broken up and gotten back together...We know what it's truly like to miss each other...and definitely 'vacation' with friends, go 'out ' with friends....and that could be a good thing to continue after marriage as well....

May2704bride Posted: Jan 30, 2004 09:52 PM

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Posted by cocoa

oh, i got one. learn how to accept being alone. learn how to enjoy your own company. this is huge!!!

I am such a believer of this!!!!!!!

samsbride Posted: Jan 30, 2004 11:19 PM

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TRAVEL. Live abroad or far from home by yourself so you know you are truly self sufficient.

Date several men so you know you've got the right guy for you!

xjulietx Posted: Jan 30, 2004 11:58 PM

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Try to be happy for friends even if you are not happy. This shows that you are able to celebrate with them as easily as they can cry with you.

Learn to accept that not everyone will be happy for you when you are happy. This will be important in marriage and life.

August2004 Posted: Jan 31, 2004 12:17 AM

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I def think that every female should live on their own before moving in with their husband. I have lived on my own for two years(since I was 22) and let me tell you that I have learned to become totally self sufficient. Also, I have learned to be comfortable being alone as well(which was very hard to get used to at first, Now I LOVE it).

I also think that every girl should get a solid education and make a career of her own.

These have been the two greatest things I have done for myself !!!

julz33 Posted: Jan 31, 2004 10:24 AM

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Keep it going!

endlessluv429 Posted: Jan 31, 2004 10:36 AM

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Posted by oct.2004bride

Posted by julz33

Posted by cocoa

know how to pump your own gas

What about know how to change a tire!

I have three words for you guys: FULL SERVICE, AAA hahahha
or i call FH LOL or my dad!

Definetely learn to occupy yourself and maintain your 'girl time' or 'mom' time you can't rely on FH/DH to occupy you 24/7 i learned that a long time ago!
Also, learn to take care of a home & hubby

kimmie Posted: Jan 31, 2004 11:00 AM

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Girls, ALL of these are soooo true. I guesss there isnt many left you all hit the nail right on the head... Hey maybe thats one we should learn how to do HE HE
Also I feel you should learn how to love yourself before you can really love someone else..

shelly3950 Posted: Jan 31, 2004 11:06 AM

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Posted by jannshari

Live alone.
Have their heart broken so that they know how lucky they are to have someone to love them.
Travel alone.
Know what they want to do with their lives.

Gosh, there are so many more things, but I can't think of them right now.

I TOTALLY AGREE!! There is nothing live travelling alone and living alone. You really konow what you are made of.

NYCHICK Posted: Jan 31, 2004 01:12 PM

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SELF SUFFICIENT!!!!!!!!! Truer words were never spoken, absolutely!! This is the root and everything else are branches, there is nothing like that 'I'm going to be alright because I can depend on me' feeling.

bizzybridesmom Posted: Jan 31, 2004 01:42 PM

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Work like you don't need the money.

Love like you've never been hurt.

Dance like nobody's watching.

Sing like nobody's listening.

Live like it's Heaven on Earth.

xjulietx Posted: Jan 31, 2004 01:44 PM

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Others I thought of

It is okay to ask for help, just don't give up helping yourself

You don't need to move out of your parents house to be indepent. You can live at home with mom and dad and still have your own life or you could move out and still have them pay your bills and help you. It is not one sided

Don't push too hard to cut the apron strings that you push away entirely. Find balance in your relationship with your parents before you get married and it will help you AND your parents after you leave.

julz33 Posted: Jan 31, 2004 01:59 PM

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Posted by NYCHICK

SELF SUFFICIENT!!!!!!!!! Truer words were never spoken, absolutely!! This is the root and everything else are branches, there is nothing like that 'I'm going to be alright because I can depend on me' feeling.

Definately!

OctGroom Posted: Jan 31, 2004 02:50 PM

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I think the woman needs to learn and accept unconditionally that the man is the lord commander and master of the house.... his will is law!.... OK.... before you all tar and feather me .. I'M JUST KIDDING!!!!!!!! haha JUST A JOKE!!!! JUST A JOKE!!!! LOL.....

Allrighty.. being serious now.....

I think the woman needs to make sure --

She has all her finances in order. (ie. pay off debts, loans, CC bills.. avoid all unnecessary expenditures of money after the Wedding and HM.. there'll already be more than ENOUGH things to have to pay off.)

She should sit down and discuss what she and her FH want to accomplish in the first year,,, 5 years.. 10 years...

She should take care of herself.. ie. a doctor's appointment that she may have been putting off.. (eye, gyno, dentist, etc.).. learn to practice self-meditation (yoga is great because I have heard the 1st year is a BIG change so any way to hold down stress is always a good thing).

If I think of more, I'll let you know.