when some people show up to your engagment party without a gift???
One of my friends said she left it at home and was going to mail it.. here it is almost 2 months later and still nothing
Another of my friends said she was going to give it to me with our other friend who couldn't make the party.. so we go out to dinner llast night and again no gift!
Do i say something.. or just let it go??? its not that i care about a gift.... but it just hurts that they couldn't even just give me a card to say congrats or something
MrsCastanedain09
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I would let it go, that's just me. I've shown up without a gift but then delivered it a week or 2 later. I have a crazy schedule and sometimes I just don't get to it.
Also, you don't know what people's financial circumstances are....our weddings are not their priority. Don't let this upset you...it's not worth it.
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Posted by MrsCastanedain09
I would let it go, that's just me. I've shown up without a gift but then delivered it a week or 2 later. I have a crazy schedule and sometimes I just don't get to it.
Also, you don't know what people's financial circumstances are....our weddings are not their priority. Don't let this upset you...it's not worth it.
yea i dont care about getting a gift... i would have maybe liked a card or something... oh well
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I agree that maybe they have been busy or something. I would just not expect it, and then if and when they get around to sending it, you will be happy you got it :) I know it kind of sounds wrong to even have on your mind, but, when someone tells you that they have a gift for you and then they wind up not giving you anything can just make it seem awkward.
Wedding or not ya know. I still think they should've gotten you a card at least.
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I would let it go at this point.
If it's already been brought up at least once and still nothing I'd leave it be or they may think that all you cared about was the gift, and not just having them there to celebrate with you, you know? I agree they should have at least given a card, but I'd let it go for the good of your friendships.
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even though it may bother you, it's probably wise to just let it slide. I had people do the same thing to me with my shower. A couple people showed up and said that they were going to give me their gift later. It's only been 2 weeks since then, but i highly doubt it's coming!! I had others who i'm very close with not show up at all because they had to work or whatever and they said that they were also sending a gift. But whatever. If it comes (or at least a CARD does) I'll be a VERY happy & appreciative person. But if not, then whatever. I don't wanna get all worked up about nothing
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I think for e-gifts you have to let it go. Showing up at your wedding w/o a gift is another story...I know people who've had this happen them. At that point, you could have a mutual friend say something or whatever you're comfortable with b/c that's inexcusable! If they can't afford a gift, they should explain that to you ahead of time and let you decide if they should be at the wedding or not.
Mrs. Bernabe
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some people just get annoyed to give at the e-party then the bridal shower, maybe they are waiting to just give you a gift at your shower.
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My fh's aunt said she sent us a card out in the mail and now its been 3 months since our engagement party and nothing so i would just say let it go its not worth saying anything to ppl like that.
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the same thing happened to me! my fh's aunt even called for my address and still hasnt sent anything! i sent a thankyou for coming but im not gonna say anything.
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Posted by debzy
I think for e-gifts you have to let it go. Showing up at your wedding w/o a gift is another story...I know people who've had this happen them. At that point, you could have a mutual friend say something or whatever you're comfortable with b/c that's inexcusable! If they can't afford a gift, they should explain that to you ahead of time and let you decide if they should be at the wedding or not.
My bestfriend who's wedding I was in last month had this happen to her. A couple came who just basically gave her an IOU - - which I think s_cks big time. Cause you know that they're never gonna give it! I thought that was a little rude. I hate IOUs. And this same couple is also coming to MY wedding, so i kinda know now not to expect anything from them. But I'm wondering what's appropriate in that situation. Do I ever bring it up in the future?? I'd probably be WAY too uncomfortable with that. (This is the same woman who came to my shower without a gift and promised to send one later. yeah right) If you're not going to give anything, just Don't Say You Will!!!!
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Posted by Mrs. Bernabe
some people just get annoyed to give at the e-party then the bridal shower, maybe they are waiting to just give you a gift at your shower.
that is true...all the gifts really start to add up.
