fh has about 35 that are his bffs lol.. he is loved by every1. but 35 + guest = 70 people. NO BUENO!
what are you guys doing about work? are you inviting all,some,none?
its reallly tough!
MrsGRod09
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I am inviting none and just telling those that i wanted to invite that it is only going to be a small affair with family only. So far everyone has understood and no problems.
asg450
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I'm inviting my co-worker, boss, and an ex-coworker who I keep in contact with. I'm not inviting anyone else from our department, I'm only really really close to my co-worker and boss, so everyone else can just wait to see the pics. We are a small department within a larger department, so the three of us are pretty close, unlike everyone else in the larger department.
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I invited those co-workers with whom I socialize outside of work, since a wedding is a non-work social event. The ONLY exception I made was my immediate boss (and his wife).
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I am inviting none and just telling those that i wanted to invite that it is only going to be a small affair with family only. So far everyone has understood and no problems.
I did the exact same thing!
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I am inviting a few of the people that I work directly with and that I am genuinely friends with. I would love to invite everyone in our department and everyone who sits around me, but it would become too excessive. If I limit it to only the people I directly work with, hopefully everyone else will understand.
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we had to keep our wedding pretty small so it was really just close family & friends. I invited a few people that i worked with, but they were only the ones that I had a REAL relationship with. So it certainly wasn't everybody. If I could have afforded a much bigger wedding, then I would have just been 'polite' and had ALL my coworkers. But alas, I was not so lucky
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yea but here's the problem.. at least a dozen ppl from fh's dept asked him when the date was so they can mark it down... now.. lets say he only invites the ppl that I really like from his job... what does he say to the ones that didnt make the cut??
we dont want to hurt anyones feelings..but on th eother hand they shoudl be happy they'll be saving $ lol.. its soooo tricky. i hate this.
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NONE! If you invite one it starts a whole thing about who's invited and who's not. I keep work at work.....that includes the people!
MrsGRod09
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Unfortunately you either invite all or none :-/. If you start to invite some and not the other then your going to hear alot of crap from those you didn't invite and it's just going to be a mess. It really is a tough decision.
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I am inviting none and just telling those that i wanted to invite that it is only going to be a small affair with family only. So far everyone has understood and no problems.
I did the exact same thing!
Me three! I can't be bothered with the drama
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yea but here's the problem.. at least a dozen ppl from fh's dept asked him when the date was so they can mark it down... now.. lets say he only invites the ppl that I really like from his job... what does he say to the ones that didnt make the cut??
we dont want to hurt anyones feelings..but on th eother hand they shoudl be happy they'll be saving $ lol.. its soooo tricky. i hate this.
In that case play it safe and invite no one. You can't pick and choose because someone will be resentful and you don't need drama at work. I had a similar issue with my job and decided not to invite anyone. If they ask I will let them know I have a large family and I can't afford to invite co workers and neither can FH.
With that said... Let them know you have to keep the list small for $$$ reasons and only close friends and family are invited. If they have a problem with that then you might want to reconsider your relationship with them. Times are hard and an extra 70 ppl is alot of money.
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my office is small. i am inviting everyone here.
fh is the boss at his office. he has 10 people there. he is inviting all of them.
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I am inviting none and just telling those that i wanted to invite that it is only going to be a small affair with family only. So far everyone has understood and no problems.
I'm doing the same
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I work for 11 people so i am not inviting any of them. I will only invite the ladies who i work with everyday. I can't afford to have these respect invites.... most of the 11 didnt congratulate me on my engagement anyway so they can kiss my grits
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We let others know that we are doing a small wedding and therefore cannot invite everyone we'd like. I invited the group I work with directly, as well as a few others in the company that I am close with. FH invited a few close coworkers and a few of the partners in his firm. People kept sending me their addresses but in the end we couldn't do all. FH was the one wanting to invite everyone and their mother but I had to rope him in and remind him we are paying for this 100% - therefore, NO WAY! I don't think it's a big deal to invite some coworkers and not others - but I work in a very large company. And maybe I'm just a bit$h
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I can't afford to have these respect invites.... most of the 11 didnt congratulate me on my engagement anyway so they can kiss my grits
Same here..I won't be here though when I get married but even if I wasn't no one was getting an invite especially the ones who didn't even congratulate.
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I invited those co-workers with whom I socialize outside of work, since a wedding is a non-work social event. The ONLY exception I made was my immediate boss (and his wife).
Same here
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I am inviting none, and FH is inviting some. But completely different situations. FH works in a massive company, so he is only inviting his immediate coworkers, and he also sees them outside of work. I have a very small office, so I would have to invite everyone, or no one at all. If I invited everyone, that's 18 people (including guests), and 2 tables, and it's not happening. I think they'll be a little pissy about it, but oh well.
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grrr. thanks for all your answers! i guess i will get to work on the guest list and see if we need to add them lol
fh is soo reeettaaaaaarded.. i find out otday that hes been telling people 'oh its a small wedding, so im just goin gto have a party at the house for u guys'....
oh really? party? in our house? who is paying for it? cuz im soooooooooo done with house parties for his friends
his answer: na we'll just get beer and pasta and chicken...
