what do you think...

ok girls this is kind of long but tis bothering me and Im not sure if I should or shouldnt do anything about it.
Ok so one of my BM who has been a very close friend and someone who I grew up with told me today that she was upset. So here some background. My BM is a little younger then me but we have been friends since she was a little baby I used to babysit her . SO we are pretty close and I concider myself to be a good rolemodle and sister like figure (she is an only child) Well her parents got divorced and her mom remarried to a man who had an older daughter. Well my BM and her step sister do not get along that well, she is very needy and has caused alot of arugements between her father nd my BM mom. there are alot of details im going to leave out but lets just say the whole family has had some really rocky times. well my BMs step sister got married to a man that the whoel family dislikes bc hes white trash and doesnt have a decent job and wants to be a professional bowler and has a gamling prob. but whatever. so I think my BM step sister is just a misserable person and missery loves company. So my BM tells me the other day that she was talking to her step sister about something and somehow rolemodles came p ( i forgot how) well my BM said that she considers me a good rolemodel and her step sister replied.. no I dont consider lisa a rolemodel ok whatever I let that go shes just jealous. Now this morning my BM calls me up all upset bc last night her stepsister was really mean to her and kept reminding her that she comes from a BROKEN HOME, yes she calls it broken up....not nice right? she doesnt say parents arent together, or parents are divorced she makes sure to say broken home ok.. next I come up somehow..bc im such a good role model of course .. ok so then she starts talking about how im spoiled bc I still live at home and if my parents didnt spoil me then I would have had to get a job instead of get my masters and then now Im not goignt o be able to get a job!!! what nerve! Im so pissed! what right does she have to talk about my carreer and my family! im just so discusted with this girl. I want to call her up and tell her that she has no right to talk about me or my fmaily! and to stop talking down to my BM because her parents are divorced and your a misserable person!! I really feel the need to do stick up for my BM since she is an only child and I am the only one that would prtect her! but Im afraid it will cause drama. I dont know what to do!

Yikes...truthfully, as frustrating as this is for you, I probably would just let it go. Clearly, the girl has some issues and is jealous of you and your relationship with your BM. Since she didn't say these things to you and she hasnt been disrespectful to you directly (unless she has and you didnt say it in the OP) I would probably let it go to save your BM some drama.

I do think, however, if you wanted to talk to the girl about the way she treats your friend, that is a different story. Sticking up for your friend and defending youself are two different issues ya know? If she hasn't directly disrespected you, I see leave your issues with her talking about you and your family out of it. If you see the way she hurts your friend, then I would say something. Does that make sense?

I think you should just keep being their for your friend as a support. No need to make her life even more difficult. JMO

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Posted by FutureMrsLV

yeah I knwo what you mean. its the best advice and prob what I should do... ugh just hate people like that!

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totally agree Lisa...its so frustrating..people can be so mean sometimes...shes probably just a miserable human being and like you said, misery loves company

Don't even fuel the fire, she's not worth it....man, jealousy is a dangerous emotion