What do you think of this?..(UPDATED..NEW INFO!!!)

Original post by sweetdoublenn

Jun 26, 2008 02:57 PM

As you know of the problems with my Best Friend who is in my wedding in September. I wrote her explaining my feelings about the whole situation 2 weeks ago..I never got a response! So today is my brithday and she didn't even call me, no text, e-mail, nothing. She sends me a comment on Myspace saying Happy Birthday..meanwhile we have been friends for 18 years! In the past she always has called me in the morning before she goes to work since she is up before me. I got nothing..

I am un wanted friend! Why does she needs me. Apparantly it shows she doesn't care. My birthday is a personal day with nothing to do with my wedding! I can't believe I haven't heard from her. Boy, is she in for a shock after the wedding when I end our friendship..

What do you all think? It may seem petty, but I don't think you do something like this to a friend of 18 years!!!!

Kerin2804 Posted: Jun 30, 2008 11:09 AM

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Sometiomes people will push away those closest when there is something going on that they may not want the other to know about.....There is NO excuse for her behavior. Perhaps she did not have the funds available, but then she should have said that...Just make sure you are wiling to give up a life long friendship and have all of the facts before you take action. I hope everything works out for you

debismom Posted: Jun 30, 2008 11:15 AM

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Jennifer, I'm sorry your friend let you down!!!! I love ya!!!!!!! Mary MOB

megzzie Posted: Jun 30, 2008 11:17 AM

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I'm sorry what you're going through with your friend. I hope everything works out

On a better note...

Happy Birthday!!

sweetdoublenn Posted: Jun 30, 2008 11:23 AM

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Thanks for the birthday wishes!!!!! It's a hard situation right here but I think it will the best for everyone!! I think I will start out by saying to her about her 'depression' and then go into everything else! I am giving her 1 week and one week only to get back to me..if still I get no response I will e-mail her again and tell her it's a seal deal..she's out! I wish she wasn't being like this, I just don't have it in me anymore..I am at the point where I hate her!

SeaMaiden Posted: Jun 30, 2008 11:47 AM

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honestly, there is no excuses for this behavior, but before making your decision, u should really give one chance to see if she will confide in you a little of what is going on in her life. If she is so depressed, the last thing she will want to do is rain on the happiest time of your life with her sadness. i know that it hurts even more that she shut you out, but trust me, from her perspective it may not seem that way. she may be avoiding you now out of guilt and fear of confronting what she has done which is obviously wrong. she may have a severe mental issue right now, so give it a chance.

If you find that she is just being plain selfish and inconsiderate and nothing is going on with her at all, don't hesitate to let her go...

sweetdoublenn Posted: Jun 30, 2008 12:15 PM

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I plan to do that excately! My thoughts are how can she be in my wedding when we don't even talk or see one another..and she is dealing with allot it's best to let her go..If she goes into this is this and that is that...I will then have to get nasty!