What is the

biggest fight you and FH have gotten in??


FH and I have been fighting all night. And not a small fight either. I don't really want to get into but I just feel so tired and annoyed and hurt all at once.

About FMIL.

A few months after DH and I started dating, we decided to quit cigarettes together bc I have bad asthma and he has high blood pressure and his doctor told him to stop smoking. He found out that I had cigarettes behind his back and was so so upset. It sounds like something so small and not serious, but he has major trust issues so it wasn't the fact that I had a few cigarettes, it was the fact that I lied. We didn't even yell during that fight - he was just so disappointed and hurt. I'll never forget it... and from that night, everything changed but in a good way.

It honestly helped our relationship because I realized how it was so not worth it to have a few cigarettes and see him get that upset. I also realized that he would never lie to me because I could tell how much lying bothers him. We really grew from it and I never lied to him again. We made an agreement to just talk to each other, even if we wouldn't like what we were talking about. Throughout these past few years, we've stuck to that agreement and its worked out really well. We talk everything through and its awesome. Totally different than what I was used to in my past relationships.

Whew~there have been a couple of doozies, but one of the first big ones I can remember is that he was upset cause I was talking to a friend in a bar about his dad's recent suicide and I was rubbing his back. DH didn't realize what we were talking about and gave me hell for it.
It sux to fight but every couple does it. I hope it stops soon tho, cause I know how frustrating it can be

Our biggest fights are usually about his psycho mother. Over 9 years, we have had some really bad ones. The fights are not as bad as they used to be.

Other than that...we fight about money...a lot. He is a saver, and I am a spender. I'm not a crazy spender, but he thinks everything I buy is not needed. pshhhhh

The most recurring fight was about me wanting us to move out and get a house of our own.
He thought that bcause I was 'fed up' that it meant we had to move that instance.
What I really meant was that we should plan to move out in the (near) future (like 2 yrs).

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we always argue about how I notice little annoying things his family does to take FH for granted. My FH is so nice to everybody and his family takes advantage of that.

honestly, every couple fights and that just makes it healthy... i really agree with that but we dont really fight all that much... until this wedding process... :(

mainly the guest list and 'kids vs. no kids' discussion... which we were on the same page at first looking at halls, and then his fam wanted kids and he completely changed... lots of words exchanged and huge fights around that...big big fights... but it will all pass.. hang in there.

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Posted by elp6421

biggest fight you and FH have gotten in??


FH and I have been fighting all night. And not a small fight either. I don't really want to get into but I just feel so tired and annoyed and hurt all at once.

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I'm sorry.

Thanks girls!! It really helps to know we are not the only couple that gets into the occasional fight.

Now that I am calmed down a bit I can share what happened - mostly we were fighting about were to spend the holidays, and that spinned off to involve a lot of other things.

FH and I have one or two big fights each week! It leads to the best make-up sex! lol

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Posted by elp6421

Thanks girls!! It really helps to know we are not the only couple that gets into the occasional fight.

Now that I am calmed down a bit I can share what happened - mostly we were fighting about were to spend the holidays, and that spinned off to involve a lot of other things.

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I'm sorry.

Once we started spending holidays together we went with a every other system for the major guys. Christmas and Thanksgiving were alternated. ie last year Christmas was with his and Thanksgiving with mine. This year Christmas will be with mine and Thanksgiving with his. With his parents recent retirement to GA it makes it harder (and more$$$$) but whatcha gonna do?

Easter use to be with his when they were local but this past year was just us and his brother. We also try to come back every other year for Chinese New year.

I'd imagine once kids hit the picture we'll probably do every third year for each side so that we can get a holiday at home too.

The key for us with regards to holiday was to agree on some kind of system and stick to it no matter what. Whether it be thanksgiving with one family and christmas with another. Or alternating.

We've been doing that system for roughly 5 years now and it's worked for us.