OK, so I may be in the minority here but I've only ever received favors at 2 weddings out of the dozens I have attended. Unless its something edible (i.e. wine or candy) isn't it just a waste? I've been looking through favor catalogs and I can't see my guests enjoying half of the things I see listed, plus it seems like such a silly expense. Wouldn't it be better to put that money towards the reception? I've scoured Emily Post on this and no where does she state that favors are required, ore even a sign of good taste. I'm just awfully torn on this - trying to justify the expense on something that will likely end up in the back of a closet or in the trash. Anyone else not doing favors??
Jan60504
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I think the key to favors is NOT personalizing them! Assuming you get something that has the potential to be useful, as long as you don't put your names and date on it it will be used again. Think about it, I got a beautiful candle holder from a cousin's wedding, but it's in the back of a cabinet because even though it's beautiful, I'm not going to decorate my house or table with something that screams wedding favor! (it has their names and wedding date across the front)
Since I feel this way, I've decided to give my guests vases - just vases - not vases with FI and my names on it or our wedding date. Instead we'll tie a pretty little tag on the vase with our names and wedding date so people can take it off and then put the vase out on display. They'll remember where it came from, but their future house guests don't have to know.
JMO
Sage10.03
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Michele31...I HATE DUST COLLECTORS!!!!! LOL I can't tell you how many I have thrown out!
I love the donation idea....I especially can not think of anyone who's family hasn't been affected by cancer...Isn't that something we can all benefit from?
I, myself have yet to figure out what I am going to do...
Favors...ugh!
smooch
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We are giving wild flower seeds. Not only do I hate the idea of giving favors that people won't use, I hate the idea of wasting plastic and other materials that are not only going to collect dust, but won't biodegrade as well!! So we love the idea of wildflower seeds. And it's inexpensive too!
LizD
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We felt the same way about 'dust collectors' so we did Win for Life lottery tickets and everyone got a kick out of it!
julybride444
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I feel like the favors are the one area where you are specifically doing something for the guests. I do feel that most favors can be wasteful. As a result we decided on a donation, it honors our guests presence, and doesn't end up on the trash.
mishandgerard
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i had picture frames which also doubled as seating cards. When my guest get the thank you with our pic they can put it in it or use it personally. My cousin liked it so much she did the same thing, but different type of frame.
wenndypoo
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We decided against favors for the same reasons mentioned above. Instead we are doing the donation. I think it will be appreciated more than a candy dish or what not.
