What is the deal with FMIL?

angnick Posted: Jun 09, 2006 02:58 PM

What is the deal with FMIL?

i think it is wonderful for those who get along great with the in-laws..

do you think the ones that give us all a hard time, do you think it is because they dont like us?

Opinions here girls..

soon2bcopswife Posted: Jun 09, 2006 03:01 PM

Re: What is the deal with FMIL?

I don't think they don't like us, I think it's because we are becoming the new woman in their son's life. It's probably a lot to handle for them.

Come on.....who could dislike us??????

angnick Posted: Jun 09, 2006 03:01 PM

Re: What is the deal with FMIL?

Posted by soon2bcopswife

I don't think they don't like us, I think it's because we are becoming the new woman in their son's life. It's probably a lot to handle for them.

Come on.....who could dislike us??????

i know but still.. fh and i have been dating for 7 years what the heck, did she think i was just going to GO AWAY??

soon2bcopswife Posted: Jun 09, 2006 03:05 PM

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I hope that with time, she will get over it. He loves you and you are sticking around for good. I think she will get through it and hopefully you can have a good relationship. And if not, then that is her loss, not yours.

CLMon7906 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 03:05 PM

Re: What is the deal with FMIL?

Posted by angnick

Posted by soon2bcopswife

I don't think they don't like us, I think it's because we are becoming the new woman in their son's life. It's probably a lot to handle for them.

Come on.....who could dislike us??????

i know but still.. fh and i have been dating for 7 years what the heck, did she think i was just going to GO AWAY??

probably. some mothers NEVER learn to even tolerate their son's wives. it's sad and wrong..but it happens.

mycrayon1 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 03:38 PM

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I got along great with my FMIL until she found out that we weren't going to be living upstairs from them. She's over it though, and things are moreor less back to normal, so give it time it'll get better and if not it's her loss.

SunBride07 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 03:42 PM

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Posted by CLMon7906

Posted by angnick

Posted by soon2bcopswife

I don't think they don't like us, I think it's because we are becoming the new woman in their son's life. It's probably a lot to handle for them.

Come on.....who could dislike us??????

i know but still.. fh and i have been dating for 7 years what the heck, did she think i was just going to GO AWAY??

probably. some mothers NEVER learn to even tolerate their son's wives. it's sad and wrong..but it happens.

Sad but true. She probably wants to be the only woman in her son's life.

R&J0806 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 03:56 PM

Re: What is the deal with FMIL?

I think it's a jealousy thing -- FMILs are watching us get the attention THEY used to have. There's another woman in their little boy's life. I'm not saying it's right but I think that's why what happens, happens.

CLMon7906 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 04:07 PM

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Posted by robynlevy

I think it's a jealousy thing -- FMILs are watching us get the attention THEY used to have. There's another woman in their little boy's life. I'm not saying it's right but I think that's why what happens, happens.

yup....they used to come home like babies begging them for things (or just asking nicely).....FBIL#2 calls in advance on his drive from PSU to demand chicken parm be made.....and then he eats like 2 meanwhile, the woman makes enough for 30 people and most of it goes to waste.....so anyway....one day he'll find himself a lovely gal and she'll make them for him...maybe worse, maybe better...maybe he won't be able to tell a difference...either way, he'll stop asking his mommy to do it and BOOM...anger and jealousy sets in. most of them get over it and appreciate the lessened burden....but some never do. (i have the opposite problem....FMIL seeks out to do things, even when we tell her we don't need it..)

klingklang77 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 04:44 PM

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you also have to look at the flip side. we have to deal with the other woman in FHs life. it is a hard situation b/c women are so territorial in this situation.

Boston&NY2006 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 04:58 PM

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My FMIL is great, but I've heard (and seen) so horror stories....

I think it's just that mothers are very posessive of their sons and get b!tchy when another woman becomes more important in their son's life...

Wintersbride Posted: Jun 09, 2006 05:04 PM

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For the most part I agree that it's a jealousy thing. We are now the woman in their son's life and they may feel threatened...especially if you are more supportive of their son then they were. With my situation I think my FMIL hates me because of the jealousy thing...that's the only thing I can think of being that I have always tried to be nice to her.