That would make you leave your FH or DH, no questions asked? For me it is physical abuse. I think anything else can be worked through if you are serious about your marriage. Just curious what 'my girls' think
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I have to say, I don't think anything would make me leave with no questions asked. I would have a tough time forgiving physical abuse, but it's hard to imagine giving up on him without understanding why it happened.
The only thing to understand about why someone would be abusive is that it is an issue that THEY have with power and control. There is no excuse for it and if you allow them to 'explain', I'll guarantee you that they will blame their partner (you made me do it, if you just listened to me, etc). Bottom line is abusive behavior is only the fault of the abuser, not the abused.
Sorry to go on so long, this is what I do for a living so I have strong feelings about it. Glad to see that everyone feels that it is not something they'd tolerate!
Mrs.Z
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He cheats, hits... Im gone
dpli
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Posted by dpli
I have to say, I don't think anything would make me leave with no questions asked. I would have a tough time forgiving physical abuse, but it's hard to imagine giving up on him without understanding why it happened.
The only thing to understand about why someone would be abusive is that it is an issue that THEY have with power and control. There is no excuse for it and if you allow them to 'explain', I'll guarantee you that they will blame their partner (you made me do it, if you just listened to me, etc). Bottom line is abusive behavior is only the fault of the abuser, not the abused.
Sorry to go on so long, this is what I do for a living so I have strong feelings about it. Glad to see that everyone feels that it is not something they'd tolerate!
I get what you are saying, but since I am not married to an abusive or aggresive man, it is hard for me to imagine that it would even happen, so that's what I meant. I can't even imagine it happening at all in my relationship, so it's all hypothetical. What I was trying to say is that in my own relationship, to the man I married, I can't imagine just walking away from him for any reason, but maybe physical abuse would be the one thing that would change my mind.
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Physical abuse or cheating.
blushingbride2006
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if he cheated on me - i am not pathetic and wouldnt let someone embarass me like that
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Posted by stephanief
That would make you leave your FH or DH, no questions asked? For me it is physical abuse. I think anything else can be worked through if you are serious about your marriage. Just curious what 'my girls' think
ditto A BIG DITTO. also cheating I can't and wont tolerate
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Infidelity and/or physical abuse. No questions asked I am a goner.
Ditto.
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Yes! Definitely Cheating!
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NO questions asked? I can't think of anything. I'd probably ask questions no matter what.
however, even though I've asked questions, I don't doubt that I'd leave him if I ever found out he (1) carried out an ongoing affair during our marriage (2) physically or sexually abused our kids (no kids yet LOL) (3) abused me or abused hardcore drugs and would not get help for it.
