I never ever in my wildest dream would have thought family would act this way. My step father and my mom are paying for our RH.my dad has no money to put in. My step dad and mom were nice enough to invite the immediate family from my dads which included 4 people. That was all we invited from his side because my parents aren't rich and did what they could. My dads side is pissed now because we didn't invite everyone from his side. They're calling me with substitutions telling me this person is coming instead of that person. And I haven't seen or spoken to most of these people in years nor has FH ever met them in the 7 years we have been together. Is it wrong that my mom and step dad are not inviting my fathers whole side of the fam when he doesn't have a dime to put in? Are we doing something wrong here? I'm so fed up with everything and discouraged.
jennandrolo
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if their not close family then id say no your not doing anything wrong. i never understand why family that is never really involved in your life practically fight to be invited to your wedding. i have a cousin who disowned my dads whole side of the family for 5 yrs, she just came back into the picture..you think shes being invited? no. if your father wants more family member that your not close to, to be invited he should foot the bill. your mother and stepfather are kind enough to pay for the RH so why add more financial pressure just to add people that you probably dont even care if their there or not.
davenjess
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they are not doing a single thing wrong. In fact, it was nice of them to invite anyone from his side of the family. That really says a lot about your step-father & mom actually....
I personally would speak to your father and let him know there is a limit on who can come from his family & it's his decision to decide who's coming to fill that number (4 is FINE).
We were in the same boat - really. Dave's mom wanted to invite all of her friends because she knew her family wouldn't come (because she's crazy and f'd those relationships). We flat out refused...Dave will NOT be introducing me to ANYONE on our wedding day & the same goes for me...the only people coming to our wedding are people we've seen in the 5 and 1/2 years we've been together...
wo0shply
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I dont think its wrong. I thought it was nice that your parents invited your dad's immediate family. Families are crazy!
BunnyBears
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your father not paying for anything is unrelated to who is invited in my opinion. you invite who you are close to or feel u know well enough to invite regardless of who paid for what. it sounds like u don't know the people your dads side wants to invite though and that is good enough reason not to invite them. just explain that to them that u are only inviting close friends and family but that means u have to also only invite people u know well on ur step dads side and mom's side.
babieblueeyez96
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i think you should invite who you want and thats it, its your wedding, who cares what they say, even if they get mad, you seem to not be close with them, so would you really care if they are mad and don't talk to you anymore??? that sounds harsh, but i have come to terms with the fact that i have the family and friends who i care about and love and that is who will be there with me, if i dont talk to them or whatever, then i dont invite them, and i dont really care if they are mad bc like i said i dont talk to them to begin with!
missexcited
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sounds like your father's side is being a thorn. Did your dad decide if he was coming yet? How did that go...?
novia26
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Posted by jennandrolo
if their not close family then id say no your not doing anything wrong. i never understand why family that is never really involved in your life practically fight to be invited to your wedding. i have a cousin who disowned my dads whole side of the family for 5 yrs, she just came back into the picture..you think shes being invited? no. if your father wants more family member that your not close to, to be invited he should foot the bill. your mother and stepfather are kind enough to pay for the RH so why add more financial pressure just to add people that you probably dont even care if their there or not.
well said
novia26
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Why don't you just invite the ammount from your dad's side that corresponds with ammount of people that responded 'No' on the RSVP cards. That way your mom and step dad aren't paying for extra people and your dad's side will stop complayning. If you go this route, invite the ones that are more important to you first.
