i'm worried about finances for the first few years. I'm worried about us not having much time to spend together b/c we will be working so hard to make ends meet.
FalNBill
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The only thing that makes me nervous is being away from my parents & sisters - I know I will see them, however we are a tightly knit family... i know it's going to be hard at first... other than that I know FH and I are going to be fine on our own...
Kara and Todd
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Nothing. I'm not nervous - I'm EXCITED!
We already live together and have all of our finances joint. I'm just excited to be married!
Luvbsb4eva
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Really just the money thing... we'll both be graduating in May with a huge debt from college loans... and FH wants to do a pharmacy residency now which will cut his salary in half compared to if he just got a regular pharmacist job (but actually will double it when he's done so it's worth it). This means I will be really supporting us for the first 2 years of marriage too... kinda scares me a bit!
Other than that, I love FH so much and am so excited to be marrying him and spending my life with him! I couldn't imagine it any other way!
Pinkiegirll07
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I would also say the finances thing. FH and I live together now, but we're worried about having enough money to buy a house and raise a family on LI. My finance worries are not helped by the fact that I lost my job almost 6 weeks ago and I still haven't found anything yet!
GinaBambina08
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Leaving my mother alone to live all by herself..
bemyyoko
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i'm worried about every one else's expectations... like getting married means we're old and have to 'grow up' no more purple hair for me and his family pressuring him to get a 'real job' as if his is fake.
worried about people constantly bothering us about having kids. i do not want them for a long time... the whole concept scares me.
but as far as FH and I go... i'm not worried about anything.
the future mrs m
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i'm worried about every one else's expectations... like getting married means we're old and have to 'grow up' no more purple hair for me and his family pressuring him to get a 'real job' as if his is fake.
worried about people constantly bothering us about having kids. i do not want them for a long time... the whole concept scares me.
but as far as FH and I go... i'm not worried about anything.
As far as children are concerned we decided that we don't want kids for at least 8- 10 years b/c we are young and have selfish tendencies like wanting to travel all over and be all into ourselves and our marriage. (plus i've had to take care of my parents in different ways b/c of health issues since i was in hs). If people start asking us about children we are just going to ask 'would you like to start donating to the krystal and james make a baby fund?' of course this 'fund' would be used to fund all of our trips across the globe!
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Posted by bemyyoko
i'm worried about every one else's expectations... like getting married means we're old and have to 'grow up' no more purple hair for me and his family pressuring him to get a 'real job' as if his is fake.
worried about people constantly bothering us about having kids. i do not want them for a long time... the whole concept scares me.
but as far as FH and I go... i'm not worried about anything.
As far as children are concerned we decided that we don't want kids for at least 8- 10 years b/c we are young and have selfish tendencies like wanting to travel all over and be all into ourselves and our marriage. (plus i've had to take care of my parents in different ways b/c of health issues since i was in hs). If people start asking us about children we are just going to ask 'would you like to start donating to the krystal and james make a baby fund?' of course this 'fund' would be used to fund all of our trips across the globe!
We don't plan to have kids ever. If people ask, I say, 'Why do you ask?' It's none of their business!
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Leaving my mother alone to live all by herself..
aww, i know how you feel
MyLobster
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It's still so unbelievable to me that it's actually happening. I think I'm most nervous that we will be ao concerned with trying tomake ends meet that we don't fully enjoy life. It's hard not to get into that habit but I try to make a conscious effort.
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sharing bank accounts and finances I am a spender and he is a saver This should be interseting
oh boy me 2!! I dont know whats going to happen..im stubborn!
kristi0001
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I am not really nervous about anything. We already have a child together, already live together, and our finances have been shared for teh past 2 years, so I do not think that I have anything to be nervous about......our wedding as exciting as it is, will not really change anything in our day to day lives.
bonch20
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i agree about the pressures from others. all you can do is make yourself happy!
LitBallerinaGirl
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Finances, make us a little nervous which is why we still only pool our money to pay the morgage, utilities, and taxes as well as our car payment. Everything else comes out of our seperate accounts.
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'It's still so unbelievable to me that it's actually happening. I think I'm most nervous that we will be ao concerned with trying tomake ends meet that we don't fully enjoy life. It's hard not to get into that habit but I try to make a conscious effort.'
nicely said.
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Posted by AllJoy
Not nervous, just aggravated that I'll be connected to his family. Thats why I'm not sure if I want to change my name.
I'm with you on this one!
Autumn08
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Alot! Not being able to make decisions on my own, anything having to do with finances and kids! I just can't picture myself a mom and that's all FH can talk about.
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i'm worried about finances for the first few years. I'm worried about us not having much time to spend together b/c we will be working so hard to make ends meet.
My exact worries. We have a child to support & college to get through.
MrsD71208
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Honestly, nothing! I am so excited to marry FH and move on to the next step in life. I am excited thinking past our wedding to our first child as well!
the future mrs m
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i'M ALSO worried about being so happy and comfy that i'll start to put on weight. i need to fall in love with the gym--and right now i'm not there yet!
