Had 5 no shows...2 called the night before and the other 3 still waiting to hear about.
3 people did NOT give gifts. (not even a card!!) What do I do? Should we say something? How long before asking? one non gift giver was a family of FOUR!!!!! how rude!
ONe was afriend of mine which i did not expect. She did arrive late as she was coing from anothe affair...maybe she forgot?
Waht is proper ettiquite ont his??
Thanks for your help!! did this happen to any of you guys?
halfbaked
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We had 2 people not give any gifts- not even an empty card. 1 I was a BM for when I was 18 and just moving out of my parent's house and struggling to live on my own and I still gave $300.
I said nothing. I'll never say anything, but the thank you card will definitely be a short and sweet 'Thank for celebrating with us.'
Lisalana
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the proper etiquette is to say and do nothing. while giving a gift seems like a no-brainer, guests are not technically required to bring one.
we had 5 no-gifters, 1 being the head of DH's hedge fund. it totally sux, but it is what it is. i've just learned to accept and move past. at least it's 5 less TY cards i have to write.
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I had two bridesmaids (with guests) and a brother (with a bitchy guest) and 2 cousins who did not gift (not even a card from any of them). We still thanked them but im still pissed. Even when DH and I both did not have jobs and were living on pennies we would always give a large gift. These 5 non-gifters all have great jobs, had no excuses and if they were having trouble they should not have brought guests. Is a 99 cent card you can pick up at any supermarket, target, cvs, pharmacy or hallmark so hard? I'm no longer over-gifting like I used to and if I ever attend any of those 5 weddings, they will not be getting a nice gift from me.
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one of them i am NOT surprised because they travelled far and i know they don't have much. the other i was truly surprised as it is a friend i see/talk to all the time. Is it rude to say 'i hope I didn't lose your gift in all the shuffling around' or just see if she says something when we talk next. It is totally out of character for her. I guess its not too late, gifts could still be int he mail...
Do you still send a TY note for those who do not send gifts?
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I had about 9 no-gifters. I didn't even mention it, I think that would be in poor taste honestly. It did bug me that they didnt even spring $1.99 for a card, but whatever. I still sent them a Thank You card anyway.
bigday1114
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i agree. its so frustrating. its not about the gift just the fact like yous aid that they couldn't even send a card!! I dont' care about the money..its just poor ettiquite to not even acknowlege that you are happy to be part of hte wedding day.
I am hoping they bring it up themselves....
just found out that one of our no shows just called DH and apologized AND gave a gift. Thought that was great!
halfbaked
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Posted by bigday1114
one of them i am NOT surprised because they travelled far and i know they don't have much. the other i was truly surprised as it is a friend i see/talk to all the time. Is it rude to say 'i hope I didn't lose your gift in all the shuffling around' or just see if she says something when we talk next. It is totally out of character for her. I guess its not too late, gifts could still be int he mail...
Do you still send a TY note for those who do not send gifts?
I would never mention it. And you're right- *technically* guests have up to a year to give a gift. And I'd still send a TY card. Be the bigger person.
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proper ettiquete says you never bring it up ....
but i think you should if you're close with those people. You can say something like 'hey, i looked through the cards we got and didn't see yours - just wanted to make sure it's not lost or whatnot'
otherwise, you could just write a thank you card that just says 'thanks for coming' and hope they get the hint
AudioLoveStory
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FH told me that guests technically have a year from the wedding to send a gift. I had no idea about this. They may still send something after!
bigday1114
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thanks girls!!! we will just wait and see what happens! It by no means ruins my special day...as I am so glad these people were there to share it with us.
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i had one couple not give a gift or a card. so i just texted to make sure it didnt get lost or anything. i simply said that we have a card without names on it and was wondering if was from you guys.
