what planning...

cbcf Posted: Apr 05, 2007 04:56 PM

what planning...

are you including your FMIL in???

Some people said to have FIL's check out the hall before you book it and some say to have FMIL when you get your dress....IDK??

What does everything think...and what aspects of the wedding planning are you including FMIL and FIL's in on??

jennandrolo Posted: Apr 05, 2007 05:04 PM

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Well the only thing FMIL has been involved in is suggesting the RH and demanding her name be on the invite. Other than that none. There's a language barrier between us so we aren't close at all. I prefer doing it on my own.

ourday08 Posted: Apr 05, 2007 05:04 PM

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I didnt include my FMIL when I went shopping for my dress but a lot of people do. I guess it would be a nice gesture...the only thing that I would say is that I remember you saying that you are in your early twenties and I'm sure that your taste in dresses will probably not be the same as your FMIL so make sure that you pick out a dress that you like, not what you FMIL likes.

By the way...Were you able to convince FH to change your date to 08'...I hope so!

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Apr 05, 2007 05:07 PM

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Fmil and FFIl after FH and i narrowed the RH down to 2 they had a say in what they liked...

FMIL will meet with the priest/ rabbi AFTER my parents have made the final decision... my parents are meeting with ppl for business reasons for $ negotations... they do not want the in-laws to get or know any involvement with the $$...

FMIL will me when they are chosen while we discuss arrangements for the ceremony to make sure they do what she and FH family will liek to include....

she will not be with me when i look for dresses. i plan on askign her when i do my fittings to come...

my mom is ENOUGH to deal with while dress shopping...

blu6385 Posted: Apr 05, 2007 05:08 PM

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i am trying NOT to include FMIL in any thing ... shes not my favorite person ...

ETA: i forgot to put NOT

Teamhurldon Posted: Apr 05, 2007 05:10 PM

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addresses... lol

megzzie Posted: Apr 05, 2007 05:28 PM

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I'm very close with my FILs, so they are included in everything that my parents are! We tell my parents and FH's parents all of our ideas for everything.

cherish83 Posted: Apr 05, 2007 05:30 PM

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When start dress shopping in the area, I would like for her to come. She has no daughters, so I want her to be able to take part in the stuff a mom would go through with her daughter. Plus any major DIY projects she'll be involved in. She's super craftsy!

Collweenie21 Posted: Apr 05, 2007 05:30 PM

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Trying not to include her, as she thinks this wedding stuff is unnecessary and we should be buying a house. I cut her opinion out after she told me how much I should spend on a dress!

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Apr 05, 2007 06:18 PM

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well we dont have the best relationship in the whole world... i wish i could include her more but she doesnt seem 'in to it' so we took both sets of parents the same day to check out the RH before we booked.. they arent paying but we felt it was the 'right' thing to do... and when i got my dress i told her and showed her pics.. but that was my moms moment... so when i go for my first fitting i will take her and my FSIL.... when it comes to the DIY stuff i will include her i know she will like that!

emcheung Posted: Apr 05, 2007 06:20 PM

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FIL's went with us to look at the reception halls we were trying to narrow down to. probably going to invite them to the tasting. dunno what else.

GinaBambina08 Posted: Apr 05, 2007 06:23 PM

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My mother, my FH and I looked around at reception halls and when we found the one we really liked, we invited the inlaws and my father to take a look at it and see if they were okay with us booking it....with dress shopping, my mother and I look at dresses on our own, but when it's time to narrow it down to picking one dress, we'll invite FMIL to help out

FutureMrsRice Posted: Apr 05, 2007 06:24 PM

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MY FMIL and my mom are friends so we have been doing a lot of the dress picking, florist appointments and cake tasting together. All in all, it's been a really good experience!

jgl Posted: Apr 05, 2007 06:24 PM

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I include FMIL in most of the things we are doing, but we have a great relationship!!

Espo22 Posted: Apr 05, 2007 06:34 PM

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Posted by cbcf

are you including your FMIL in???

Some people said to have FIL's check out the hall before you book it and some say to have FMIL when you get your dress....IDK??

What does everything think...and what aspects of the wedding planning are you including FMIL and FIL's in on??

well i invited FMIL to come with along dress shopping and that went great...When we see her we talk about things like if were interested in a vendor and gonna book an appointment.

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Apr 05, 2007 06:35 PM

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Everything, she's the bestest.

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Apr 05, 2007 06:35 PM

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First off me and my FMIL and FFIL have a great relationship.
They (as a gift) are helping us out with paying for some of the RH so we had to include them in on that choice (but they left the decision up to me and FH). We do run things by them to get their opinions (my FMIL has really wonderful and elegant taste) and to see what they think. They leave the final decisions to me and FH though.

failurebydsign Posted: Apr 05, 2007 07:33 PM

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wehn i went up to NY to start my planning i said i wouldnt do itunless she came..so my FMIL flew all the way from seattle to N yon a red eye to be there with me..during that whole snowstorm mess..her flight was cnceled 2 times and she still made it to NY..my mom and sister flew from FL and me and FSIL flew from KS..so we were from all over the country ..i wouldnt have had it any other way..(except for FSIl..i hate her)