what should i do??

my FH and i have decided not to invite anyone from work to our wedding because we just cannot afford it and we already have too many people for the room we booked...

my question is - do i address it with my bosses and colleagues (i.e. explain why i'm not inviting anyone from work and apologize) or do i just leave well enough alone and mention nothing?

i'm sure they must have figured it out since my wedding is coming up and they haven't received invitations...

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I would only invite 'the boss'

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I would just leave it alone-- you do not owe anyone an invitation- so there is no reason to apologize.

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theres not just one 'boss'...theres 3, plus their spouses...

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honestly, you do not need to address this with them. Maybe let a few very close co-workers know the deal and I bet word will get around.

A close co-worker of mine got married a couple weeks ago and he didn't mention to me or anyone that we were not invited. We even talked about wedding planning on a regular basis. I knew he was having a small wedding and had to cut back and I was not insulted at all. Of course, I wished I could have been there but I totally understand where he came from.

I mailed all my invitations last week except for co-workers because I have been struggling with a similar issue. I can't invite everyone but there are some people I want there so I feel bad picking and choosing. I am trying to decide by Friday.

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I just wouldn't say anything. I'm sure they'll understand. They probably overheard you say that you have too many people at one point.

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I wouldn't say anything either... they should understand and you shouldn't feel obligated to invite them..

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Ok, if its 3 bosses + spouses, don't invite any, if they can't fit... Should be Ok

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You should not feel obligated to invite them.

I am inviting bosses and co-workers, but only because FH and I both have small families and my room gurantee requires 125 people.

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Honestly, you are under no obligation to invite co-workers to your wedding. Weddings are for your families and close friends to celebrate, and quite frankly, they are too costly to invite just anyone.
That said, it is your choice to invite your co-workers to the ceremony (if it's being held at a separate location to the reception). Simply post an invite for the ceremony only on a public bulletin board in your office. I wouldn't offer anyone a further explaination.

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I wouldn't say anything. You have to tell the people you are inviting that they are invited, but not vice versa This is the only upside to planning from another state - I can invite everyone from work (all three offices) and no one will want to shlep up to LI

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I agree, I would not say a word to any of them, if they haven't said anything that's even better. But you shuldn't feel obligated to invite these people anyway.

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My FH and I had the same problem- we have a huge amount of colleagues that all know each other, etc.
I dont know if this helps b/c you have to find the right place to do it so it doesnt cost too much -

We explained to our friend/colleagues that we are having a small wedding (which is a bit of a lie!) with mostly family, but that we are having a party after our honeymoon to celebrate with other friends and co-workers. So, we are picking a bar that we love and having an open bar party after we get back and inviting all of them- it is actually much cheaper than paying for them as wedding guests. Does that make any sense?? Hope so! They have all responded really well to that idea so we feel relieved that the pressure is off!