What should I do???????????

drpepper318 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 04:08 PM

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Posted by Aristotelina

Not for nothing but if these 'friends' choose to go away or not be at your wedding, then why would you even bother chasing after them?

I would definitely let them know that you are feeling hurt, but if they don't want to come to your wedding IT'S THEIR LOSS and maybe they weren't as good a friend as you thought they were.

I TOTALLY AGREE. They knew about your wedding first and still decided to attend these other events instead...if it were me I'd let them know how I feel then treat them accordingly in the future...screw them

mf2009 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 05:00 PM

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I would be quite peeeeeved if my friends new about my wedding and didnt even bother consulting me to find out if the dates clashed. But that's when you really find out about who your real friends are when you have to plan for one of the most important days of your life. It is upsetting but don't let it affect everything you've worked for!

Christine N Ralph Posted: Mar 31, 2008 05:45 PM

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I agree that your friends were not right in what they did...The two that are going to Bermuda obviously dont care to be at your wedding and you should have the same feelings towards them...Im sorry if I sound mean, but if you meant this much to these people then they would not have booked a trip knowing that your wedding was planned...Look at it this way...its their loss, not yours! You dont need people in your life like that anyway...as for your friend who doesnt want to upset her FMIL....she needs to speak up...I would tell all of them how I feel...you dont want resentment and still be their friend...sooner or later your feelings are going to come out!

HTH

CourtandJon Posted: Mar 31, 2008 05:55 PM

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Yeah---- F them! That is really messed up that they would do that knowing that it is the date of your wedding!!!! I would definitely tell them how you feel and they can decide to either cancel their tkts (They can prob cancel for a small fee and use the tkt to go somewhere else... I could be completely wrong, but I THINK they may have a year to use the tkt if they cancel it and can use the tkt money to go anywhere) or they can be @ssholes and miss the most important day of your life.... in that case, you learned a lot and now know who your true friends are.

irishgrl1017 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 07:38 PM

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Bummer! Cant they re-arrange their schedules...seems to me a wedding would take over a bacheloretter party....hmmm I would def. talk to them

azailia Posted: Mar 31, 2008 08:14 PM

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totally sux... one of my friends is already telling me she probably can't come because they will be away for their annviersary.. which is the week before so i told her to come home during the week!!! and then another friend says she cant come to my eparty because they will be on vacation... and get this its a time share.... are you kidding me.....
come home the night before... change the week... i have been waiting for this moment for 8 years! it is really upsetting especially becasue they all have heard me talking about this. ... forever!

but on the other hand... 3 less people you have to pay for!

Tori9299 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 08:28 PM

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I would send them an invite see what happens, and then you learned who your true friends are.
Don't forget when you get married it is about you and your husband.

MrsInglima Posted: Mar 31, 2008 08:58 PM

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I would just say that you are really going to miss their presence there and that you would have really liked for them to be part of your special day. They'll get the point, but you're not going to be too mean about it.

BoxOfRocks Posted: Mar 31, 2008 10:25 PM

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Posted by PegaLega

I would be annoyed but if they feel that way then totally ignore them and go on with your plans. I would not go running after them and tell them my feelings on the situation. There really isnt much that you can do about it-I definitely would NOT change your date just b/c of that.

Also are these friends so close to you that they would KNOW your wedding date by heart? Maybe they didnt realize it was that weekend, etc. I know the people in our BP kept asking the date up until they got the invitation. I wouldnt let it get to you-you will still enjoy the hell out of yourself

I agree. This is good advice. You may want to consider sending them an invitation anyway; perhaps their schedules will clear up or they were mistaken about the date. Or don't, but be prepared for the possibility the friendships will end or be dampened.

In regards to the poll, I see very little that would be achieved by venting to them except stirring up bad feelings on both sides.

MrsS4 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 10:28 PM

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Posted by jaep129

I have had the date for two years. I guess i see where I stand in their minds!

that changes a lot-- i thought they just knew your date with the invitation arriving!

wow yes deff tell them how you feel! that is not cool! I think it shows you where you stand.