What will you/do you call your FIL/IL's

MrsStefan Posted: Nov 04, 2007 05:29 PM

What will you/do you call your FIL/IL's

I still call my IL's Mr. and Mrs. XXX. My FIL's birthday was on the 2nd and I had to call him on the phone to wish him well. He answered the phone and it was so strange! I didn't know what to call him. So, I stuck with Mr. XXX as I have for the last 7 years. DH and I have been married for a year. I don't think I'll ever call them Mom and Dad. I'd like to call them by their first name, but I am not sure that is okay. Usually I just say 'Hi!' and I don't have to worry about it, but I think that I have to come up with something!

tlp123 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 05:44 PM

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Yah. I am stuck in the same situation. I don't know what to anyone in his family. Someone asked me what I call members of FH's family and I realized all I call them 'ummmmmm......' until I get their attention.

ZKAT22 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 05:48 PM

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i'm not married yet, but i already call them mom and dad. i will admit that is gets a little confusing when both sets of parents are in the same room.

lkdrnw Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:09 PM

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I am not married yet--but I try to stay out of situations where I would need to address them

Nirvin Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:18 PM

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Well I call FILs Mr & Ms. I will probably never call them mom and dad.

bluegreen08 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:34 PM

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I call his parents by their first names. I avoid calling his grandparents anything and just speak directly to them because I'd feel weird calling them 'Mr/Mrs X' or their first names or 'grandma/grandpa'

Marly Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:58 PM

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I call my FIL Pop.

empressdani Posted: Nov 04, 2007 07:02 PM

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I call FH's mom Mrs. xxxxxxxxx but I know she is dying for me to call her mom. Everynow w/ then to be cute when I call I'll say 'hey ma' but I always go back to the Mrs.xxxxx. It would be weird when she and my mom are in the same place...but then it may be ok b/c I call my mom by her first name most times...LOL

portjeffbride Posted: Nov 04, 2007 07:03 PM

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I don't call them anything I swear it's true!

I just speak to them, without using a name. Come to think of it, I don't know WHAT I should call them

hyphenbride Posted: Nov 04, 2007 07:25 PM

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I called them Mr and Mrs until we got engaged and his mom requested that I call her Mom. It honestly still feels a little strange, and I wish they had said, 'call me by my first name.' I never got instructions from his father but I call him Dad...awkwardly. Hopefully I'll get more comfortable with this over time!

My FH calls my parents by their first name--they told him to do that when we started dating. I think they're okay with first names OR Mom and Dad

11-17-2007 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 07:46 PM

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first names..after all they are people too!

RisiLeigh Posted: Nov 04, 2007 08:06 PM

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I call them Mom and Dad - I have for at least a year now, even before we were engaged. I started doing it to be cute once in awhile and they never said anything and even sign cards 'Mom & Dad' so it works! I call his grandparents 'Grandma and Grandpa' and his aunts and uncles 'Aunt _ and Uncle _.' It just feels natural. He does the same with my family, calling my parents Mom and Dad, my grandmother he/we call Nanny, and my aunts and uncles the same. No one has any problems with it :)

bigrd37 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 08:24 PM

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I haven't figured this one out yet! FH and I have talked about what we will call the others parents. My mom said he can call her by her first name and i'm hoping his parents say the same thing, but i don't think FH has asked them and they haven't offered. right now i call them mr/mrs. A b/c their last name is too long to say everytime (lucky me!) and that's how they always signed their cards to me, but they just gave FH and I a card and wrote mom and dad...so maybe they will want me to call them that. i think FMIL calls her MIL mom. i have a year to worry about it!

babieblueeyez96 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 09:46 PM

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thats so funny that this topic came up bc i thought iwas the only one!!! i just didnt really address them by anything for almost 10 years, i would just talk to them without saying any names, lol, after we got engaged, they said to me, well are you finally going to call us by our first names??? so then i started to, its kind of weird but im forcing myself to say it hahaha

ShanonandSteve Posted: Nov 04, 2007 09:49 PM

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i call them by their first names when necessary and will probably just continue to do that after FH and I get married.

might be a little weird to call them mom and dad.. dont know if it will happen.

JKFris09 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 09:50 PM

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I've always called his grandmas, aunts, uncles all aunt so & so or grandma etc. His cousins all refer to me as their cousin and I do the same. His parents as of now I call Mr. & Mrs. __ I guess I'll make the switch to mom and dad but I'm not so sure how I feel about it.

evnme Posted: Nov 04, 2007 10:59 PM

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i've always called them by their firstnames

iwannabmrsD Posted: Nov 04, 2007 11:28 PM

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mr & mrs..

i know ffil would like for me to cll him dad.. but it's not happening..

fh tried to call my mom mom shortly after we got engaged.. it weirded me out and rubbed me wrong so i put a stop to it.. now he calls her mrs...