What would you do?

What would you do?

MY FH parents are divorced and his father has recently announced that his entire side of the family won't be coming to our wedding (because they feel 'weird') FH keeps on saying 'maybe it's better that way' I know he's really upset, but what is he going to do. FFIL HATES me, so I called his grandmother to tell her he was very upset. And she said that instead of coming to our wedding, they would like to have a backyard bbq w/ their family when we get back from the honeymoon. I don't know how I should feel about this! If it was my fam, I'd probably write them off, but he's not me, and it is very important to him to have some sort of relationship w/ them. I'm going to ask him what he wants to do, but honestly, I am really angry.

Re: What would you do?

What you have to do is this, tell your future husband that he should talk to his father. Suggest that the two come to an agreement. Maybe your FFIL could just attend the ceremony and meet his son after the reception for drinks. But no matter what your Fh chooses to do, let him no matter what his choice is, you'll stand by him. Hold to that as well. He might just let his dad not come, he might not. But make sure you stand by him, that is what is important. Let it be his choice.