FI's coworker is getting married, we were invited but were definitely on the B List. We definitely aren't going because we have no desire too--plus FI got a new job and will no longer be working with this person by the time the wedding comes around. The question is: Would you get them a gift?
Sassy
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You don't sound like you like her. I think if you cannot attend, they say you're supposed to send a gift. But do what you feel. You should not be forced to get her a gift if you have no desire to.
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I understand your predicament, and most likely you will never see these people again. Personally I would still send a gift. Even though you claim that you were on their 'B' list, they still invited you. Maybe you can buy something off of their registry? Just, my opinion.
dcbride
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Thanks. We were planning on getting them something off their registry--just wanted to see what other people would do.
Sassy
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I personally would also buy off their registry. You sounded like you didn't want to, I just didn't want you to think you were being forced.
dcbride
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They didn't really register for much-- so that is why I am stressing-- I feel stupid mailing them sheets or some spatulas.
michele31
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You should send her a gift, it doesn't have to be money or even an expensive gift. But I would send something, maybe a vase or cake plate. I HATE when brides have B-lists and it is obvious to the guest that they are on it. But I would still honor the invitation in a spirit of friendship.
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I wouldn't go but I would still send something small. But then again, I've had family tell me that they weren't coming to our wedding & we didn't get squat from them so........
dcbride
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Seriously if you are having a b list don't make it obvious, we got the invitation yesterday and the RSVP date is Monday.
dora
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Sorry to be 'white trash' about this, but generally I don't send a gift if I've said no to a wedding -- the exception is if I'm very close to the person.
If you really feel honor-bound to get her something -- get her a modest-sized gift certificate at the store she registered at.
