What would you do???? *UPDATE*

Ok I need all the opinions I can get on this one.....
My friend just told me when she wants to have her bachelorette party (i am a bridesmaid). its the same day as FH's really good friends wedding. When I asked her if there was ANY other day she could do it she said no when she asked why i told her and she explained that there really isnt any other date and thats fine. So she was upset b/c she didnt want me to miss it and i said no i'm definitely coming to your bachelorette party (and i meant it) so FH comes home and i tell him what happens and hes giving me a REALLY hard time about missing the friends wedding. Plus when i ask my girls to be in bridal party I plan on asking her. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE ME? I dont think its that big of a deal that i'm missing the wedding......... HELP!

*** OK So i spoke with my friend and explained that i already told FH i would go to the wedding with him, his parents are going to be there, we already told his friend we were coming and I feel i have to go to the wedding. Plus if FH turned the tables on me and said he was going to miss your wedding to go to a bachelor party I would be mad and tell him no you're going to the wedding.... AND shes mad at me... shes like well its not just anybodys bachelorette party. I suggested going to the spa during the day, not really interested.... so now i dont know what to do......

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Posted by DonnaPWhite1124

Can you go to half of the wedding(Im assuming its in the day going into evening) then maybe meet with the girls wherever theyre going? I mean it may be alot of traveling and running around but you can be at both parties

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I think you should try and do both.

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

Well... You agreed to go with FH to his friends wedding before you knew anything about this gurls party... I think you have an obligation to FH than you do her, but thats just my opinion...

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I agree

I can't do both the times don't work out.......

so you ladies wouldnt be mad if one of your bridesmaids couldnt go to your bachelorette party b/c she had to go to a wedding?

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Posted by Irishny8

I can't do both the times don't work out.......

so you ladies wouldnt be mad if one of your bridesmaids couldnt go to your bachelorette party b/c she had to go to a wedding?

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Hey you will be there or were there for the bridal shower right and the wedding, , so your not letting her down all together!!! I wouldn't be but, thats me.

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Posted by dazies1011

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Posted by Irishny8

I can't do both the times don't work out.......

so you ladies wouldnt be mad if one of your bridesmaids couldnt go to your bachelorette party b/c she had to go to a wedding?

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Hey you will be there or were there for the bridal shower right and the wedding, , so your not letting her down all together!!! I wouldn't be but, thats me.

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yes i'm going to the shower and wedding.... i wouldnt be mad either but i have a feeling shes going to be mad at me....... ugh

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Posted by Irishny8

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Posted by dazies1011

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Posted by Irishny8

I can't do both the times don't work out.......

so you ladies wouldnt be mad if one of your bridesmaids couldnt go to your bachelorette party b/c she had to go to a wedding?

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Hey you will be there or were there for the bridal shower right and the wedding, , so your not letting her down all together!!! I wouldn't be but, thats me.

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yes i'm going to the shower and wedding.... i wouldnt be mad either but i have a feeling shes going to be mad at me....... ugh

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You can't make everyone happy.... you had these plans first, plus you wouldn't like a no show at your wedding, and thats what would happen to your FH's friend.....Are you great friends with her?

i think you have an obligation to be at the wedding... you said yes to that first... how do you think your FHs friend would feel knowing that you had 'something better to do' ya know?

Its not your fault that you were invited to something else first... ya know? she has no right to be mad.

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Posted by MegBert

I would try to go to both...If it were the other way around and it was her wedding and your FH friends bachelor party and he chose to go to the bachelor party how would you feel..I always try to put myself in FH shoes before I decide on things HTH

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**THats what he said and hes right... (i hate when hes right!)

i know you guys are right...... i just spoke with my friend and we're going to see if we can make her bachelorette party an all day/night thing, so maybe i can go during the day and still go to the wedding.... i know i'm going to end up going to the wedding and i should.... ugh why cant things just work out

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Posted by Irishny8

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Posted by MegBert

I would try to go to both...If it were the other way around and it was her wedding and your FH friends bachelor party and he chose to go to the bachelor party how would you feel..I always try to put myself in FH shoes before I decide on things HTH

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**THats what he said and hes right... (i hate when hes right!)

i know you guys are right...... i just spoke with my friend and we're going to see if we can make her bachelorette party an all day/night thing, so maybe i can go during the day and still go to the wedding.... i know i'm going to end up going to the wedding and i should.... ugh why cant things just work out

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unfortunately...thats just life and it stinks

I would try to do both but when it really comes down to it the wedding is probably the thing you should go to.
Since my bachelorette party is going to be in Vegas I'm pretty sure a lot of people won't be coming. My cousin lives in North Carolina and even though she is in my bridal party (well, she doesn't know it yet) I doubt she will be going to Vegas.

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Posted by Irishny8

I can't do both the times don't work out.......

so you ladies wouldnt be mad if one of your bridesmaids couldnt go to your bachelorette party b/c she had to go to a wedding?

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Listen I think FH Friends wedding is more important to attend ... you made plans with him and if she cant understand that then she is not a great friend, she has to understand that you have prior engagements with FH. would she like you to miss her wedding for someones elses party ..?? And i amsure you wouldn't be happy with FH if things were the other way around! JMO

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Posted by DINAAMATUCCIO

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Posted by Irishny8

I can't do both the times don't work out.......

so you ladies wouldnt be mad if one of your bridesmaids couldnt go to your bachelorette party b/c she had to go to a wedding?

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Listen I think FH Friends wedding is more important to attend ... you made plans with him and if she cant understand that then she is not a great friend, she has to understand that you have prior engagements with FH. would she like you to miss her wedding for someones elses party ..?? And i amsure you wouldn't be happy with FH if things were the other way around! JMO

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I know you ladies are right I already told FH i would go with him and if he tried to go to a bachelor party instead of say her wedding it would be a FIGHT...... this is not going to go well with her.......

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

Well... You agreed to go with FH to his friends wedding before you knew anything about this gurls party... I think you have an obligation to FH than you do her, but thats just my opinion...

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I'm with Mazz on this one