what would you do with 3 and a half weeks to go

CaseyVM214 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 02:57 PM

what would you do with 3 and a half weeks to go

So my FI cousin RSVPd to the wedding weeks (well over 6) ago...her, her husband and 4 children and an unfant are coming...fine..that is 6 seats. So 2 weeks, my FI and I heard through the grape vine (i.e. his mother) that she heard from her sister, who heard from her brother (the cousins father) that they are no longer coming to the wedding (reason unimportant)...so we waited no phone call, no email...then the dealine passed last week for the hotel...no reservation (they are from TX and have no family in NY). still no call. What would you do..her little family is going to cost me over 500 dollars.

oh and my FMIL refuses to get involved so that is not an option..would you

1. Call the cousin and be upfront and ask her what is going on

2. Just assume she is not coming and have no place for her at the wedding

3. if she never call assume she is coming and risk lossing the $500 when she doesnt show up.

thanks in advance!!!

ali120206 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 03:00 PM

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I'd call and ask. Tell her the truth, that you heard through the grapevine that they weren't coming and you just wanted to confirm if that was true.

Brassgirl9 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 03:02 PM

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I would call and say you heard they would not be able to make it. It's not unreasonable to do that. I wouldn't want to lose 500 dollars.

Aly0124 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 03:03 PM

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If you are concerned about paying extra money for 'no show' guests, I would definitely call them. Just call and tell them you wanted to make sure they were able to find a decent flight and hotel. Don't mention that you heard they may not arrive. Then, they won't suspect.

Be sure to call before your final payment is due to your reception hall.

CaseyVM214 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 03:03 PM

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Posted by ali120206

I'd call and ask. Tell her the truth, that you heard through the grapevine that they weren't coming and you just wanted to confirm if that was true.

thats what i thought and then my FI gets all squirmy...my FI and his mother dont believe in communication...they believe everyone should beat around the bush....I however and jsut completely fed up with this approach..I was taught that communication is the key and you should always be upfront and honest...but it is his family

CLMon7906 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 03:15 PM

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Posted by ali120206

I'd call and ask. Tell her the truth, that you heard through the grapevine that they weren't coming and you just wanted to confirm if that was true.

Same here...I'd call and find out before you pay up.

xcalystax Posted: Aug 08, 2006 03:17 PM

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Definitely call them!!!!

Katie&Chris2006 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 03:23 PM

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Posted by ali120206

I'd call and ask. Tell her the truth, that you heard through the grapevine that they weren't coming and you just wanted to confirm if that was true.

Totally agree. That is too much of a cost to gamble with. Good luck!

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Aug 08, 2006 03:29 PM

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call and ask.

CaseyVM214 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 04:06 PM

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thanks all...I am going to tell my FI that we just have to call...if he wont do it I am going to do it myself.

thank!!!!

October Bliss Posted: Aug 08, 2006 04:13 PM

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I would call and tell them you know they didn't make hotel reservations and that you are concerned that something has happened which has caused them to change their plans, so you just want to touch base.

ewickens Posted: Aug 08, 2006 04:15 PM

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Posted by ali120206

I'd call and ask. Tell her the truth, that you heard through the grapevine that they weren't coming and you just wanted to confirm if that was true.

I agree.

Naunie Posted: Aug 08, 2006 04:28 PM

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OMG- we have 3 and a half weeks to go!!!!!!!!!!

CaseyVM214 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 04:30 PM

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Posted by Naunie

OMG- we have 3 and a half weeks to go!!!!!!!!!!

I know...its crazy....I am very exctied also...dont let my rant of a thread confuse you...sometimes these little issues get to me...hows the planning going???

Naunie Posted: Aug 08, 2006 04:35 PM

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Posted by CaseyVM214

Posted by Naunie

OMG- we have 3 and a half weeks to go!!!!!!!!!!

I know...its crazy....I am very exctied also...dont let my rant of a thread confuse you...sometimes these little issues get to me...hows the planning going???

Ahh! i am freakign out! I am such a procrastinator, it's rediculous.
I have so much to do!
What do you have left?
I still have ummm, seating charts, place cards, RD invites, BM gifts, more hair/ mu trials...

sarahbelle Posted: Aug 08, 2006 04:43 PM

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Do not risk losing the money. Give them a quick call to confirm their plans.

CaseyVM214 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 04:43 PM

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Posted by Naunie

Posted by CaseyVM214

Posted by Naunie

OMG- we have 3 and a half weeks to go!!!!!!!!!!

I know...its crazy....I am very exctied also...dont let my rant of a thread confuse you...sometimes these little issues get to me...hows the planning going???

Ahh! i am freakign out! I am such a procrastinator, it's rediculous.
I have so much to do!
What do you have left?
I still have ummm, seating charts, place cards, RD invites, BM gifts, more hair/ mu trials...

I have ...
2nd fitting
programs
menus
favors
pacecard/seating
all music choices
OOT boxes (almost finished)
get my RD dress altered
Pick menu for RD

and of course...pay everyone!!!!!