what would you have done....(hope it makes sense)

jenny2penny Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:36 AM

what would you have done....(hope it makes sense)

Two girls were really the closest of friends for about 2 years, shared everything. The bride had always been a little wild, but after met FH she did calmed down. The friend was asked to be in BP and she was so excited but was in another state. While the girl was away the mother had the shower, and the friend was hurt that she was left out, when she was visiting a few months before wedding (shower could have been then). the bride also asked a friend she had not been in touch with for years, but used to be close with to be in BP, a few months before wedding. Last time the friend visited (new years), FH got sick and went home early, but friend, her boyfriend, and bride went out and met up with boyfriends friends. That night Bride got so drunk (which she is NOTORIOUS for, infact entire friendship, the friend always protected her and drove bride home drunk) she slept with boyfriends FRIEND. Now the bride wrote friend a letter stating FH and I think it's best you not be in BP.

Friend found out that the bride got so drunk at her B-Party that an ambulance was called. And her 'friends' left before the evening was over. (friends would never had done that)

If you weret he friends would you be hurt, is it her fault to watch her 24/7?

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:38 AM

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Why is it such a problem that she slept with FH friend?
Isn't she an adult.
I mean usually people make their own minds up who they want to sleep with or is this FRIEND Virgin MAry.
I don't think its any of her business who she sleeps with.
Drinking. Seems like she has a problem and maybe needs help, but throwing her out of BP is a little weird to me.

jenny2penny Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:40 AM

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that is what I felt too. (friend never judged bride for what she did with guys). I think maybe because the groom found out?

eroxgirl Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:42 AM

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I think she's saying the BRIDE slept w/ the boyfriend's friend...yes? no?

If yes, the bride needs not to be at the wedding

If its the friend who did the sleeping around, the bride and FH need to mind their business -- who are they to say who sleeps with who?

Sage10.03 Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:44 AM

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Wait - let me get this straight.....

The BRIDE cheated on her FH by sleeping with the FRIENDS BOYFRIENDS FRIEND????

WOW!!!

If that's the case, that is horrible and she probably doesn't want 'Friend' in the BP to protect herself....
She is probably worried that somehow, FH will find out?

Do I have this straight???

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:45 AM

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The Groom should Mind his neck.
Some of my BM'S hooked up with NO slept with Ronnies friends..
We laugh about it.
We are all adults and I would never take one of them out bc of it.
That is pathetic..
The groom needs some hobbies!

LizD Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:47 AM

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I read it as the bride slept with someone. It is crazy that they would ask friend not to be in bp. The bride is an adult and therefore responsable for her own actions. It is not up to the friend to stop her from sleeping with someone else. The friend is better off not being a part of the brides crazy life.

jenny2penny Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:48 AM

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Yes, it was the bride that hooked up. And the Bride did tell Groom about it.

then the friend got the letter saying, 'it's best you are not in the party, but you are still welcome to come to the wedding.'

LisaW Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:50 AM

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Wow, pretty pathetic. Sounds like the groom is placing the blame on the friend. It should be an interesting life.

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:51 AM

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What is the groom insecure.........
I think the whole situation is pathetic.
The bride slept with someone b4 she was with the groom.
WHAT IS THE big deal?
Why can't the BM be in the bridal party.
It makes no sense?

LisaW Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:53 AM

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Wait, I'm confused. I thought the bride slept with grooms friend after they were engaged.

Sage10.03 Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:53 AM

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Yes, obviously the Bride AND Groom are placing blame on the Friend....
She probably gave some sob story about how the friends got her so drunk and let boyfriends friend take advantage of the situation and the groom now probably blames the friend for this happening!!!

Pathetic couple if you ask me.....

I would politely decline the wedding if it were me....

ChristineC68 Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:53 AM

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If I were asked to step down from my role as a BM because the bride got drunk and slept with the friend of a friend, I would be hurt AND angry. I dont think I would attend the wedding either.

Sage10.03 Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:54 AM

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T - I don't think you are following....

AFTER the bride and groom were engaged the friend and bride went out one night and the bride cheated on the groom by sleeping with someone....

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:54 AM

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Why can't the FRIEND BE in the BP. BC THE BRIDE SLEPT WITH ONE OF HER BOYFRIENDS FRIENDS..

This situation is for the soap operas!

ChristineC68 Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:55 AM

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Theresa - I think the Bride to be slept with some other guy on a wild night out while the groom was home sick.

jenny2penny Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:56 AM

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yes, Bride cheated 1 month before wedding. The Groom knows how drunk she gets, and never needed to be forced to drink. (can't handle her liquior)

Thanks, just wanted to see other brides opinions

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:58 AM

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So why can't the girl be in the bridal party.
What did she do wrong.
The bride is obviously wrong and pathetic.
I think people like this have no idea what marriage is about.
and the groom is even worse.
He will marry her knowing she got drunk and banged some other guy..

Now this is something that should be toasted to at the wedding!!

All in favor for being a SUCKA ding your glass!

eroxgirl Posted: Jul 16, 2003 09:59 AM

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I'm sorry, and I know I'm being judgmental here, but I have gotten really stupid drunk in my life, but I have NEVER ever slept with someone I didn't want to (at the time, at least ) It seems to me that kicking the friend out of the BP is a way to pretend it never happened instead of dealing with it directly.

edited to say: DING!!!