What would you say to your MOH if..

KD1279 Posted: Jul 07, 2006 03:56 PM

What would you say to your MOH if..

You finally get to tell her the good news about your engagment, and she tells you your ring looks like a Grandma ring. My MOH and I have been talking abaout this day since we were kids, I know she is just probably jealous but she really hurt me. What is she going to say about my dress. Should I just pick another MOH, and that part is very hard!!!! She said she does not look good in the color pink, and my theme is pink and sage.
Normally, this wouldnt bother me but we are such good friends? Why?????
Thanks for letting me vent!

neener1211 Posted: Jul 07, 2006 03:58 PM

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perhaps she is jealous?? You can also tell her, this is your wedding, you get to choose your colors, for her wedding, she can choose what she wants.

Good luck!

KD1279 Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:01 PM

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She never thinks she is getting married! But she will understand one day, thru my expense!!!!

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:02 PM

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What does that even mean? Is it antique looking? Many girls have beautiful antique looking rings. SOmetimes people say the strangest things. Is she supportive otherwise?

cindyandkevin Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:06 PM

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She's prob just jealous, give her a few days/weeks to get over herself and hopefully she'll realize how she's behaving.

I don't think you need to ask someone else to be MOH as long as her attitude gets better. As for her dress, why don't you put her in sage and the other BMs in pink then?

mrsh2b Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:09 PM

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Someone has turned into a green monster I think! :

KD1279 Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:14 PM

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My fiance gave the ring he probably shouldnt have. I was lucky to get a large stone that is marqius (sp) cut with two small bagetts on the side. But... big or small is NOT the point at all. I asked him why such a big stone(not that I am complaining) and he said he saw the commercial that said something about the ring should be 3 months of your salary???
I wasnt expecting this AT ALL!!!

itslaurie. Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:17 PM

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tell her that your feelings were hurt by her comment - if she is a good friend then she will probably feel bad about that and apologize.

akaMrsT Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:17 PM

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

What does that even mean? Is it antique looking? Many girls have beautiful antique looking rings. SOmetimes people say the strangest things. Is she supportive otherwise?

I was wondering the same thing Is it an antique setting

akaMrsT Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:18 PM

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Posted by kdecamp

My fiance gave the ring he probably shouldnt have. I was lucky to get a large stone that is marqius (sp) cut with two small bagetts on the side. But... big or small is NOT the point at all. I asked him why such a big stone(not that I am complaining) and he said he saw the commercial that said something about the ring should be 3 months of your salary???
I wasnt expecting this AT ALL!!!

Since when did marquis cut equate to a 'grandma' ring That is just a strange statement for her to make.

Soon2BeMrsD Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:24 PM

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that is very weird...my ring is and antique setting(emerald cut, stone on each side, antique white gold band) i think shes just jealous, never heard of a ring looking like a grandma ring, dont even know what that means...just ignore her!

greenfreak Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:25 PM

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And even if it is 'old fashioned', what's wrong with that? In my opinion, they had a lot more style years ago.

The advice of 'Well, when it's your wedding you get to choose whatever you want' is a good one.

If you want to compromise on the dress, make it all sage with pink accents. All the other girls can wear all pink with sage accents. That will make her different since she's the MOH.

But it sounds like you're reconsidering the MOH role! Good luck with whatever you decide.

KD1279 Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:30 PM

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Thanks guys!!! I know she is jealous, but its such a wasted emotion. I plan on having a wonderful weekend with my grandma ring and registering!!! I am going to just laugh that off and joke.

NikkiC Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:50 PM

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maybe you should just ask her if she's okay with you getting married. not that you need her blessing of course....i mean, it could be just be her way of channeling her feelings of losing you to your FH.

KD1279 Posted: Jul 07, 2006 04:51 PM

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VERY true, you are on my page exactly! I have to have a drink before that one!

AeroJenn Posted: Jul 07, 2006 06:39 PM

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Posted by akaMrsT

Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

What does that even mean? Is it antique looking? Many girls have beautiful antique looking rings. SOmetimes people say the strangest things. Is she supportive otherwise?

I was wondering the same thing Is it an antique setting

Haha...I was thinking that too! What the heck does it mean to have a 'grandma ring'???

Dont worry about it--she's probably jealous. Let her cool down for a bit. Hopefully she'll come around and soon be excited for you!

ant n tilde Posted: Jul 07, 2006 08:47 PM

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i agree - i think you should give her some time but if this doesnt change then I wouldnt have her as my MOH -

I really depend on my MOH and BM and I dont want anyone around me on that day that isnt being 100% loving and supportive

i had a similar issue with a friend who proclaimed that my ring was 'the new thing bc every single girl has it now' and then basically called me an idiot for waiting 2 years to get married and then had a problem with my date - so i decided that I didnt need a 2nd BM and she is out -

think of who you want around you on your wedding day when you may possibly be freaking out - there is no room for jealousy there!

cuteauburnininny Posted: Jul 07, 2006 09:11 PM

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one word for her jealousy

sarahradio5 Posted: Jul 07, 2006 10:03 PM

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unfortunately, I think a lot of us have found out who our friends are and aren't through this wedding process. I had a best friend who I 'lost' due to jealousy after my engagement. Watch for other signs of jealousy from her... then you may change your mind about having her in your BP... or as your friend. Just be smart and alert... and it's better to know now in life! You may find out, like I did, that one of the few things that you had in common with her was being single!

Good luck! And I'm sure your ring is GAWGEOUS!!!

AlmostMrsKelly Posted: Jul 08, 2006 01:14 AM

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ugh, i'm sorry you have to deal with such a pi$$ poor attitude when you should be nothing but happy! unfortunately, i have had to deal with quite a few negative comments myself, from my MOH and i couldn't just ditch her - she's my sister! it makes it so much worse when the hurtful comments come from someone who really mean something to us... they should be our biggest supporters. but i agree with the fact that it's just jealousy... and it's your wedding day, so if she doesn't like it and if she can't take on a positive attitude, maybe she should hand over her role to someone who'd be a little more appreciative of it. talk to her though, let her know it hurt you. and good luck!