When friends turn into enemies.

Ever since I got engaged, I am the first of my friends I feel like they pretend like they are happy for me. One friend in particular has been really obnoxious. She asked me in front of everyone how big my ring was. When I told her in private that it was rude to ask in front of everyone she told me that she didn't think it was and that she only asked because I wanted everyone to know. I was so insulted, I have no problem telling anyone anything. Then she told me that she knew how much I wanted a nice ring (by the way I have been with my fiance for 10 years) and that is all that mattered to me, so I shouldn't pretend like it doesn't. She has been going out with her boyfriend for 6 months, and wants a rock. I just find her so hurtful and I am so fed up with her. She always asks me how much money do you need to get married and start a life with someone. Why is she asking me that amd I the Oz of Marriage??

When my boyfriend bought an apartment a couple months ago she never said 'congrats', she asked the square footage and if he has a doorman??

She is also the type to sabotage someone's special time and make it all about herself. I feel like I have to cut here loose as a friend. Anyone elso expereince things like this.

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I am so sorry that you have to deal with someone like this. Jealousy really does come out unfortuntaely when things are going very well for you. Dont listen to what she says -some people are clueless sometimes. I havent had that happen to me about getting engaged - but i have dealt with jealous people before on other issues. It is human nature to be a little jealous but she shouldnt be imposing it on you like that.

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Thanks for your help. To me its just sad because I know I would be more than happy for any one of my friends and instead they act this way. I feel like they just want to rain on my parade.

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I'm sorry you had to experience that. But take it as a blessing in disguise. Thats what happens when we grow up we come to realize who our real friends are. Sad but true. The only thing you should worry about is making sure you keep negative people away from you. Trust me it makes you a much happier person.

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One of my friends also showed her true colors. I got engaged three months ago and couldn't wait to tell her all about it. When I called her, we talked for about five minutes about me and the rest was all about her. She said she was happy for me but I haven't been able to speak with her since - she's been too busy. And to think I was going to ask her to be in the BP! Sometimes you just don't really know someone the way you think you do. Just try to forget about it and be happy with your planning.

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U really find out who your friends r when you r planning a wedding

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That's exactly waht happened to me. All the sudden she 'too busy' or she tells me that she'll call me write back and tehn she doesn;t. It's true you really find out who cares about you when good things happen. I was also going to ask her to be a bridesmaid, but now I don't think I'll even invite her.

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something similiar happened to me, and happens to ALOT of brides. You don't need the negativity in your life - she sounds jealous!!!

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It does happen to a lot of brides - you're not alone! Just try to remember all the good things and excitement in your life right now. If she is a true friend, she will get in touch with you and truly be happy for you.

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I had a friend that acted similiar, she asked me how many carats my ring was in front of everyone and how much i thought that he spent on it. It was very rude and disappointing.

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So true and so sad. Similar thing happened to me. I called her and told her and the first words out of her mouth were 'OMG, I was sure it was going to be me before you!' Not 'congratulations', not 'yay!', but THAT. Lucky for you, you can cut her loose (and you should), in my case - she's my cousin!!

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I can definitely relate. The first time I got engaged and went to show the ring to one of my friends, she said... you got engaged (with a sound of horror to her voice!)? no congratulations at all.. then, my engagement was called off (this was a long time ago) and I just recently got engaged and this same friend was very happy for me. But you know why? Because she got married before me!!! So I guess she doesn't care anymore... some people can be strange.. you will really find out who your true friends are over time..

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Thanks for sharing, I appreciate it! It makes me feel like other have been in the same boat.

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I cleaned house about 2 months ago of a friend.

She is a sorority sister. She got so mad that I asked another sorority sister to be a BM and not her. She would send me emails justifying why she should be a BM and why is this other girl one. She would then question how my friendship was with this other girl.

Then being so mad she said to me 'listen you have so much going on let me plan your wedding. I have great vendors and they'll really hook you up' I said no. She said 'well think about it, you have so much going on' I then told her I go on LIW for some info and she told me 'why do you go there, you dont know those girls, how do you know who they are sending you too'

I then invited her to my e-party thinking ok well let me be nice. Yea big mistake. As soon as she got my invite, she sent an email out to everyone (another girl told me about this) saying BBQ on this date and time my place. Yea same day as my party. I flipped. I sent her an email being nice saying reminder i need an RSVP from you.

I got nothing back

Then 2 weeks later she sends another email this time with me included saying 'oh BBQ has been cancled'

I bit my tongue

Finally the last straw of where I told her off, she sent me an email the day before the party telling me oh i cant make it.

I sent her an email telling her well when you grow up then email me. When you become responsible and mature then maybe i can consider us friends. Its my wedding party and I choose who I want. If you cant be happy for me then you are not my real friend. Sisterhood or not, you are nothing to me. Their was an RSVP for a reason and I sure as hell put you as a NO when you didnt respond by then. How dare you think its ok to respond the day before my party. Until you grow the Hell up and consider this friendship over.

I havent heard from her since.

Its friends like that you dont need around you

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I have a girlfriend who has been doing this to me also. She makes comments about my ring, about my hall, about my dress... pretty much everything I do. She is getting married after me and my fi thinks its just because she is jealous. My fiance owns a 1 bedroom apartment on the beach that she even comments on saying her and her fi couldnt live in a 1 bedroom because its just to small for them. The worst thing is she has always been a very good friend and always there for me when i needed her until this. My feelings just keep getting hurt. It ****s that people have to be like this and i am sorry you are going through it too. From what I hear this happens to alot of people. Good luck!