When to keep your opinions to your self
Hi Ladies,
I had a rough day. Hope all of you had a better day then me.
A good friend of mine is getting married this August & got engaged on her 1 yr anniversary last June.
I met her throuht her FH, because he is good friends with my FH. She did not get the biggest engagement ring in the world but it is pretty. He did what he could do at the time. For the last few months she has been trying to push him to upgrade her ring. She actually went to a Jeweler to see diamonds & she is even thinking of upgrading the ring on her own.
I said to her what is her rush & to put her self in her guys shoes. Don't you think he feels like what he got you wasn't good enough for you. Don't you think he feels like crap. To top it off she see's nothing wrong with this that if she wants to make improvments to her ring she will just pay for it herself.
I found out but I can't tell her that her FH has been thinking about upgrading the ring to make her happy & I feel like if she keeps this up she will be ruining this for him & for herself. So I told her what if he wants to surprise you & get you an upgrade you will be taking this away from him. She did not get the hint.
I also reminded her how when I used to talk about how I wanted my ring, she would say it's not about the ring or the size all that matters is the love we have for one another. She told me I was being hyprocritical & putting my two sense in. when I reminder her of saying that to me.
I told her I was sorry for upsetting her & that I was only giving her my opinion. We are friends & I felt we are honest with one another & thats all I was doing being honest.
I am trying to give you all the short version of this AIM convo I had today. I should past it but it got a little heated & confussing.
I just know her guy & the way he is & I just feel she should drop it right now they are going to walk down the aisle in a few months & this ring thing is going to cause alot of issues that does not need to be started.
She said she would pay the $5000. that a lose stone she saw coast & my whole argument was you can put that money to better use. like to start a saving to buy a house or condo.
The reason she said I was being a hyprocrit was because when I would talk about how I wanted my ring & she said I gave my FH standards. thats why she would say the ring doesn't matter. Well me & my FH have been together for 7yrs actually on this Monday May 12th & we spoke about getting engaged for a while & he would ask me how I wanted my ring so I would tell him what I thought I liked.
Ladies if I am wrong in this argument be honest with me. I just feel she can't compare my relationship with hers. And from a mans stand point I think she is going to start something for nothing by hurting his ego.
An Engagement ring is meant for a man to give a women or a women to give a man. what ever I just don't think it's right to go & purchase a new bigger diamond to me it's like she wants to show status & show look I have a a bigger & better ring. Doesn't that defeat what she would tell me.![]()
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I had a rough day. Hope all of you had a better day then me.
A good friend of mine is getting married this August & got engaged on her 1 yr anniversary last June.
I met her throuht her FH, because he is good friends with my FH. She did not get the biggest engagement ring in the world but it is pretty. He did what he could do at the time. For the last few months she has been trying to push him to upgrade her ring. She actually went to a Jeweler to see diamonds & she is even thinking of upgrading the ring on her own.
I said to her what is her rush & to put her self in her guys shoes. Don't you think he feels like what he got you wasn't good enough for you. Don't you think he feels like crap. To top it off she see's nothing wrong with this that if she wants to make improvments to her ring she will just pay for it herself.
I found out but I can't tell her that her FH has been thinking about upgrading the ring to make her happy & I feel like if she keeps this up she will be ruining this for him & for herself. So I told her what if he wants to surprise you & get you an upgrade you will be taking this away from him. She did not get the hint.
I also reminded her how when I used to talk about how I wanted my ring, she would say it's not about the ring or the size all that matters is the love we have for one another. She told me I was being hyprocritical & putting my two sense in. when I reminder her of saying that to me.
I told her I was sorry for upsetting her & that I was only giving her my opinion. We are friends & I felt we are honest with one another & thats all I was doing being honest.
I am trying to give you all the short version of this AIM convo I had today. I should past it but it got a little heated & confussing.
I just know her guy & the way he is & I just feel she should drop it right now they are going to walk down the aisle in a few months & this ring thing is going to cause alot of issues that does not need to be started.
She said she would pay the $5000. that a lose stone she saw coast & my whole argument was you can put that money to better use. like to start a saving to buy a house or condo.
The reason she said I was being a hyprocrit was because when I would talk about how I wanted my ring & she said I gave my FH standards. thats why she would say the ring doesn't matter. Well me & my FH have been together for 7yrs actually on this Monday May 12th & we spoke about getting engaged for a while & he would ask me how I wanted my ring so I would tell him what I thought I liked.
Ladies if I am wrong in this argument be honest with me. I just feel she can't compare my relationship with hers. And from a mans stand point I think she is going to start something for nothing by hurting his ego.
An Engagement ring is meant for a man to give a women or a women to give a man. what ever I just don't think it's right to go & purchase a new bigger diamond to me it's like she wants to show status & show look I have a a bigger & better ring. Doesn't that defeat what she would tell me.
