When you go to other people's weddings do you tend to ...

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 29, 2003 09:52 AM

When you go to other people's weddings do you tend to ...

always criticize somethinng?

I try not to, but in the last year I have been to some doozies:

1. Went to one in the basement of a church that served their drinks out of an orange cooler

2. Went to a wedding where there were 275 ppl and no seating cards- also cake was their favor (a small piece mind you) and they gave out one per family-***????

3. Went to a wedding on a cruise ship and the bride and groom did not want to pay for a reception so instead they provided us with cake and a champagne toast. I felt that was cheap.

FH says that I criticize ppl's weddings too much and it is going to come back to haunt me.

I think these are major things. I may not be having the best wedding in town, but I am going to do my best!!!!11

jennbaby Posted: Mar 29, 2003 10:10 AM

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This post gave me a good laugh! I guess people do what they can afford.

You have been noticing more cause you are planning your own wedding.

Your wedding will be beautiful!

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 29, 2003 10:17 AM

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Thanks Jenn.

I understand ppl cannot afford certain things, I am one of those ppl but at the very least I believe my guests should be taken care of properly.

Fran M Posted: Mar 29, 2003 10:20 AM

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Things definately stand out more when you are planning you own wedding. Like the paper napkins and plastic chairs at the wedding one of my friendsh.

yabbobay Posted: Mar 29, 2003 10:27 AM

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It depends how well I like the people...

If they are very close...I don't notice anything...I just have a good time

If they are not...well then I may nitpick abit...but it has come back to nip me in the butt...

Sunny Posted: Mar 29, 2003 10:32 AM

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I usually do not, except since I started planning my own.

bride04 Posted: Mar 29, 2003 10:35 AM

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I never did, but I haven't been to a wedding since I've gotten engaged. I'm sure that now I will notice every little detail.

wacky Posted: Mar 29, 2003 01:30 PM

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I went to a wedding this year and I HATE when they leave those god awful metal table #'s holders on the table.

They usually take them off , but not at this one.

I also notice the flowers.

pschica Posted: Mar 29, 2003 01:41 PM

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we just went to a very strange wedding (out of town so not the 'ny type' we were used to) but it was held in a senior center and then they did the honeymoon dance where you had to put your $ in a basket for the bride and groom and then you could dance with them......

i think now that we are planning we definitely pay more attention to details at a wedding but i try not to be so critical ('cuz i know someone will do it to me probably!!)

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 29, 2003 03:03 PM

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I guess I will try not to be so critical, because I KNOW people will do it to me.

shamma Posted: Mar 29, 2003 03:04 PM

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What I have come to notice more, is any special thing that they have done. I pay attention to the details not so much to criticize but to see what others are doing.

Instead of taking pix of the bride and groom, now I find myself taking pix of details When I was planning my wedding, I kept asking others who were attending weddings to take pix of details. I guess being in the planning stages you are a bit more critical.

wenndypoo Posted: Mar 29, 2003 03:25 PM

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I try not to. Everyone is always saying, 'It's your day, do what you want' , so I assume that's what the bride wanted. Everyone's taste is different. I definitely notice details more now though.

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 29, 2003 03:27 PM

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I feel so bad now- I will try to be a better person.

sonia Posted: Mar 29, 2003 03:34 PM

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i dont think you should feel bad .. it's natural to be critical about things that mean a lot to you. and obviously weddings mean a lot to us hehe. i always pay attention to every detail now (that i know i didn't 2 years ago.) and ppl will do the same at mine. oh well, as long as the bride has a great day its ok

Sassy Posted: Mar 29, 2003 03:58 PM

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Hey girlie, don;t you dare feel bad. I do the same thing sometimes, it depends for me, if I am having a good time, then I notice all the good things, and don't center on anything negative.

HOWEVER, if the music or food is bad, then all of a sudden, I start noticing every other thing that is just not right. Ha ha

Liz

WithThisRing Posted: Mar 29, 2003 04:07 PM

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I went to a wedding where the food was aweful (probably worse then hospital food) and the music was beyong terrible.

The wedding was just really bad and I criticized everything (the brides dress the table linens, the hall, its location, etc...)

IF the wedding is bad I will rip apart everything, but if the wedding is great I will usually notice the little things or the special things (my friend's wedding her parents are divorced and her mom passed away so she did the father/daughter dance and she did a special dance with her step dad and her cousin sang to them. Because it was so special I even remember the song that was sung to them)

I try not to criticize because I know my wedding others are going to do it to me

IrishTracy Posted: Mar 29, 2003 04:31 PM

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Call me B*tchy but I do!!! It's like a sport with me. But, I do it with everything!!!

Helene718 Posted: Mar 29, 2003 10:38 PM

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I definitely notice things that I like and don't like. That's perfectly natural. We're all planning our own weddings. If there is sonething I don't particularly like, I just plan to do it differently. There is no reason to feel bad. We all have different tastes. The world would be a very boring place if we all were exactly the same.

Olgaki Posted: Mar 29, 2003 11:00 PM

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I don't see myself making comments but I do ask TONS OF QUESTIONS!!!! Where did you get this? that? Who did you go to in terms of photo/video, florist... I think I bite the bride's ear off!!

Kathy116 Posted: Mar 29, 2003 11:11 PM

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I find that since I've been researching weddings/bands, etc...I definately critique other weddings!

But I also did the same when I waitressed...now I go into a restaurant, and I really pay attention to the service...it's not intentional, but because I did it, I know what's correct and what isn't.

Same thing with bartending...same thing with all the other jobs I've had.

The details are now brought to our attention because of our involvement.