Yes I do!!! DH says I too criticize, judge and make too many comments. He says that every couple is different--budget restraints, personalities, scheduling of ceremony and reception varies, etc.. thus, not every couple will almost always make the best for their guests. He says to stop and that it's too much. We're biased thus, of course we love our own wedding the best than other couples. Here's my list of criticisms from 3 weddings from 2000-2002 of various cities:
* Too much time gap between ceremony and reception. Ceremony ended at 12 noon and reception began at 6pm. Food started serving at 8pm (typical Chinese wedding banquet and there was no food for a cocktail hour). The couple entertained the guests especially the OTT with an afternoon brunch at a nearby restaurant with the ceremony site. What if you're OTT with no car, and/or don't speak the language?
* Floral centerpieces for reception were too small and did not had a variety of colors
* Favors were not useful to guests (personalized CD with pictures of their courtship together, it was also their seating cards printed on the CD case). Mind you not every guest has access to a computer.
* Reception served the food too slow for during dinner, and towards the end of the night dumped all the the courses at once including dessert (this was a Chinese wedding banquet). We starved from 6pm until 8pm and towards 10:30pm the wait staff rushed the rest of the dishes and put out dessert at the same time.
* Waiter stunk the table with his sweat, did not use deodorant
* Wait staff cannot speak any English
* Wait staff took too long to attend the guests's request. I'd asked for a glass of water which took 45 minutes to get, thus the wait staff to guests ratio was unbalanced.
* DJ was constantly advertising his business rather than doing his job as the DJ. 'My name is XXX from XYZ DJ, phone number is XXXXX.' It's a wedding, not free advertising.'
* No seating cards (guess they had to cut expenses somewhere)
* Sister of the groom wore sneakers and she was in the wedding party!????
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* No ceremony, reception only invitation thus no programs. Guests can't tell who was in the wedding party as there were no programs but there was a wedding party introduction. All announcements were in Chinese only, can you make it bi-lingual for those non-Chinese speaking guests?
* Couple didn't meet and greet each table
* Couple didn't get guests involved or to participate on the dance floor. Thus, very few guests of all ages were dancing and many were sitting… led to a very boring reception.
