When your shower isn't a surprise...

When your shower isn't a surprise...

Most of you know my shower isn't a surprise- I didn't want a surprise shower- I'm a snoop and I would have found out on my own anyways. Plus, it makes it easier on my Mom.

Anyways, the only bad thing about knowing about it all and you get to hear about all the people who can't make it for some reason

Saturday night I found out one of my good friends can't come because she has an engagement party that day and she is in that wedding. Ok, I understand, but I'm still sad.

Then today there is a message that a good friend from where I used to work can't make it either. It just kinda s*cks!

Sorry, I just had to vent.

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Don't focus on who won't be there...but on who WILL be there! Alot of people couldn't make my shower but i had the best time with the people who were there..it was small & intimate and everyone there was a big part of it!

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I also did not want my shower to be a surprise. Yes, alot of people would tell me when they couldn't come. Although i guess its better to know beforehand instead of being surprised.
What also happened is so many people came almost so late

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Awww I understand. I wanted mine to be a suprise and my aunt slipped So my mom has been asking for my opinions on things and we will make believe I don't know.
I totally get how you feel I know all the drama that is going on who is giving a problem and so on. It is annoying!

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DO NOT focus on the bad things. FOCUS ON THE GOOD! My shower wasn't a surprise either, so I know what you mean...

Trust me, it will make you happier in the long run -- and the people working hard to make your shower wonderful don't want to only hear what you're upset about!

Trust me, TONS of people couldn't make my shower. Only two people from FH's side (his mother and her friend) came - and none of those who didn't show up thought to send a gift or card. This includes his SISTERS, who are bridesmaids!

One of my other bridesmaids wasn't going to come, but wound up changing her RSVP...

Some of my mom's friends couldn't come (people I think of as aunts and uncles). We still had a ton of people there and it was still a great party! What I'll takea way from the day is that my mom and my MOH (and some others, too!) went out of their way to make it a FUN, wonderful party. Everyone had fun -- and I hate showers, so I'm overly critical!

It'll be great no matter what... just remember not to complain to the people throwing it for you!! In fact, ask them not to tell you any of the details!!

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It does s uck that people cant make it but trust me the day of you hardly notice because you are too busy with everything else!!!

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I found out about mine, but pretended not to know until I got there so I wasn't in on the planning part of it - But, there was a good amount of people I thought would come that didn't. And, though I was slightly disappointed, I got over it fast because I had a great time with those that could be there!!! So don't focus on who can't be there, just look forward to the day!!

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Great advice ladies!

I too have been stressing that no one will come to my shower....b/c my cousin had her shower 2 weeks ago and I just feel as if it may be too much.

You are right though, focusing on who is there with you makes a huge difference in my outlook!

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My shower was the weekend before the 4th and a ton of people couldn't make it b/c they went away. I was very disappointed for the 1st half hour of the shower, but then I realized that wasn't fair to the people that were there and to my Mom & sister (who traveled from GA) and to my 2 MOH's who worked their butt off preparing. I had a beautiful shower, got a ton of beautiful gifts and had a great time!! The week after, I got a bunch of gifts in the mail from ppl who couldn't make it!! It was cool, everyday I came home to a new gift!

Relax & enjoy the day-it will be wonderful!!

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Thank you girls!!!

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Don't worry sweetie! You will have a fabulous time with the people that are there with you!!

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That is a bummer - I'm sure they wish they could be there

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sorry to hear that trish but trust me it will be wonderful anyway...I can't wait (and you know me I don't even like showers)!

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My shower isn't a surprise either. I was bound to find out anyway but my sister spilled all the details. Now, I have heard all the drama and who can't make it.