Who caused you the most stress & why? Who has been the best?

My SIL caused the most stress. She had a hysterical fit to my everyone until I invited her sister.
My FH has been the best. He's been involved in all the planning & its been great!

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One of my MOH and one of my Bm was the best. Nothing was ever too much, always ready, willing and able to do for me. The one who caused me the most stress is my FI and one of my other BM...looking back now that it is all over I should have just ignored them

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I have a few 'bests' SonicStef has been one of my bests. My best friend and my sister have caused me zero stress so that is another 'best'. Claud2001 is also great and gives me tons of support, and zero stress.
My FH is great but I cannot say there has been no stress during the planning. Honestly he helps and is involved so that is great.
My FSILs have caused me a lot of stress and have heart my feelings very, very much. Something that will never be forgotten. There have been other 'dramas' along the way, as with most weddings.

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i am lucky as noone has really caused me much stress (except myself!!), but my mom has been the best, really helpful...don't know what i'd do without her!

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FMIL and FSIL have caused me much stress especially in the early stages. Since then, little annoyances here and there but FI helped straighten them out a little. Other than that, I don't find myself getting too stressed over wedding planning too often. But as soon as they butt their noses in wher ethey don't belong....the anxiety and drama is back. They just don't have much to do but be involved in me and FI's lives and they are both use to always getting their way about everything. I feel bad because I know right now they aren't bothering me as much but I think they are giving my mom the stress (shower planning).

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My MOH has given me the most stress and I've gotten a fair deal of stress from my FMIL.

I have a tie for who has been the best-my FH and my mother. My FH is so involved that it makes it all so much sweeter! My mother wants to give me all she can and has been letting my FH and I make decisions with not much interjection. She really wants it to be our day. My father has been great too but he's just so quiet you don't realize how great he's being.

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I think I'm causing myself the most stress. Everyone around me has been helpful and always there for me.

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Definately Mother in Law

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For me , my DH was the best, all the more reasons why I felt so wonderful about marrying him The worst award goes to my sister, she did absolutely nothing but COMPLAIN and offered no assistance for anything

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my FH has been the best. hes paying for most of the wedding himself, and me the rest.
whenever someone gets me crazy, he sits me down and reminds me how much he loves me and how great our day will be.
Also, my dad is always great at making me feel better when i am depressed.
the most stress is cause by my mothers boyfriend (hes cheap and unsociable) and by my stepmom who i hope agrees to wear a respectable 'mom type dress' for our wedding.

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For me, it's a tie between my FH and my soon-to-be Mother iN Law! Both have been AMAZING!! My FH has been there to help me make decisions and take part in all the 'little' things. My FMIL has made me feel like the daughter she never had and has helped with just about everything, I'm very lucky!!!

On the other hand....the worst is both my Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor, I can sum it up in one word.....USELESS!!!!! My bridesmaid did a lot of work for my shower as did my FMIL, both my Matron & Maid of Honor have done very little and my bacholorette party in Vegas was LAME!!! Both went there with their own agenda and didn't do anything for me!

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It's still too early for me.. lol I'll let you know in a year! lol

Keep your head up ladies!!

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I love my mom dearly and normally we have a great relationship, but she has turned into a monster regarding the wedding. So she has been my biggest stress issue.

My FH, dad and MOH have been the best as far as planning is concerned.

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My father is the worst. He told me he would give me 10,000.00 towards the wedding which is really nothing. But he told me he would rather we elope. My FH is Italian and it is important to him to have a reception. I am jewish and come from a very small family. complete opposites. I finally told my father to keep his money, and we will pay for the wedding our self. so far we have lucked out on certain things and are able to save money along the way. I think my father will give us the money as a gift after the weddingbut right now it is so stressful. Also, my FH is giving me little headaches about who I want in the bridal party. He has to out of family obligation put certain people in. I asked why you have to if you havent been close with the person in a number of years. He goeas on and gives me an excuse. Basically what has happened now is we have an uneven amount of people. But that is pretty much about the only thing.

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Just one thought- $10K towards the wedding is not nothing. It is very generous. Many of us are paying for 100% of our weddings, or near that. I agree that eloping comment was uncalled for and the strings attached to the gift might be too much. But the actually amount is nothing to turn your nose up to.

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I'm sorry but i have to say this. I CANNOT believe what you said about that amount of money being nothing. i also believe that is a very generous amount. Sorry, just had to say it.

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My FIL's, and my mother have been horrible to me. My FI has been the best. He has done nothing but support me throughout this whole thing. He's such a sweetheart!

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Just my opinion...
I would be so GRATEFUL iF someone just wanted to hand me $10,000!

Which leads me to my biggest stress factor, not who, but what....MONEY!!! My FH and I are paying for our day 100% on our own, as many of us are. Weddings on LI are just so much money!!!

Now the good part... My FH has been amazing throughout all the stress and planning. The funny part is that he has been at sea the past 65 days, yet he still manages to help out in so many ways...from another state. I appreciate him so much!

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I'm my worst enemy. I stress myself out! Thank god my FH is patient. He's been a big help.

My sister (MOH) has been great too with setting up appointments and gathering information from friends about vendors, etc..

I can't say one bad thing about my family either. Considering how much they gave us monetarily, they've pretty much have stayed out of it. We were told to do as we please with the money, that it was a gift (they saved assuming I would want a wedding one day).

Basically we tell our family where to be and at what time!

As for my bridesmaids...they're very supportive and excited about the whole thing. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it remains that way, but to be honest, I don't think I need to do that. They're great girls and true friends.

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I have to say that I've been extremely lucky in that my parents have been so supportive during all of the planning. My mom can be a real B**** sometimes and she has really been great. There has been one minor issue with the list and one with the invitations but even if she doesn't agree, she says it's your wedding, do what you want. I guess it also helps that I really don't expect too much from anyone in the bridal party so there is no way they can disappoint me. That actually sounds a little mean but basically, I'll just be happy with what they give. I drag my sister to all the appointments DH doesn't want to be bothered with and she's been great about it.