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I am making out my list and am not sure If I should invite people from out of state who I know will not fly out. Do I send them an invite anyway?
Absolutely!! I would send them an invite anyway - its just polite to do so. They may not be able to make it but they may get something for the couple off of the registry and send it in their absence.
A shower is different than the wedding. You do not have to invite everyone to the shower. If you have aunts or close cousins that live out of town I would send them an invite. You never know who will decide that they want to be with you for your shower (airline prices are so cheap now). I would not invite distant relatives or people who think you might just be looking for them to send a gift.
I disagree. I don`t think people who live a plane ride away should be invited to your shower. Unless it is a special circumstance (ie, my brother in law works for the airline so I knew my sis-in-law flies free) If they are women you know cannot make it, it may be perceived as you looking for a gift. I don`t think out of town people are offended at all. Others who I wouldn`t invite: wives or girlfriends of your fiance`s friends who you don`t really know. My husband has a few soccer friends who fall into this category. I didn`t include these women on my list. Also, I didn`t include co-workers either (although that depends on how close you are).
I agree with Elizabeth about not inviting everyone to the shower. As I said in my previous post only invite those out-of-town guests who you are close to. For instance, I have a very close friend who lives in CA. She is going to be invited to my shower. But my Aunt who I have met 4 times in my life will not be invited. Use your best judgement.
I went down my list...took all the female guests on my side and a few from FHs side (mom, aunts, SIL, nieces) and gave them to my sister (MOH) I don't think if you send an invitation it is asking for a gift, but asking them to share a special day with you. I would like my FSIL to come and my Fnieces from Arizona, they won't be able to, but I am still going to invite them...
As for coworkers, I think its understood, unless you are VERY close they are not invited...usually coworkers will have a shower for you.
I don`t know how many people really invite people to their shower to get gifts, I think its about having fun with some close women pals of yours, if they can make it, so be it, but I think the gesture is nice to extend the invitation.
I will not inivte my FI female friends that are invited to the wedding, I do not know them and it would be an uncomfortable situation, that I would say is asking for gifts.
