My FMIL was upset yesterday when we told her how many invitations we purchased. I ordered enough to cover 1 per couple for our friends and 1 per family for our relatives. Plus I ordered a few extra. She says that its proper ettiquette to send one to each family member. FOr example, she believes that her sister and her sister's husband should get one card and that thier children who still live at home and are between the ages of 20 and 26 should each get their own invitation so that they can each bring a guest. We are inviting everyone with a guest and I thought it would be ok to mail one invitation per family. What are your thoughts on this?
cindyandkevin
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Your FMIL is right. If you're going to invite 20-26 y/o people with guests, whether they be relatives or friends, they should each receive their own invitations. Otherwise, how will they know that they're being invited with guests??
libby2595
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'proper etiquette' states that everyone over the age of 18, even if they live at home, should get an invite.
we're having a small-ish wedding and i decided NOT to do that, mostly because my invites were a diy project and it was draining me.
hth
ewickens
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Any person over 18 typically receives their own invitation.
This is what we did and we ordereed about 105 and we had one extra for ourselves.
FallBride05
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anyone over 18 should receive their own invite.
MandG072909
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I am a huge disbeliever in the 'and family' invite because it opens the invitation up for personal interpretation of who is invited unless you write everyones name as Mom & Dad, Child & Guest, Child & Guest in which case it tends to get overwhelming and impersonal. Also, ettiquete says that anyone living at home over the age of 18 should get their own...I kind of bent that rule a bit (for example my sister is 19 but she wasn't invited w/ a guest so I included her w/ my 3 other younger sisters on my dad/stepmother's invitation)...At the very least I'd follow if they can bring a guest, they should get an invitation....JMO
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That is proper etiquette, although I doubt anyone would be offended if you sent one invitation to the household. We sent one invitation to the family if adult children were still at home or away at school. We just listed their names seperately. For example:
Mr. & Mrs. John Smith Mr. David Smith
thumper9878
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i am sorry, but she is right. I think anyone over 18 should get their own invitation whether or not if they all live together or not.
But if it's done, it's done, don't worry about it. That should be less of your worries..
good luck
sarahradio5
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Yeah... sux, but she's right.
I had one house that I sent FOUR invitations to!!!
ChrisnAmy
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ut-oh! oh well! My Nephew didn't get one.....
but That's the son of the Brother who had the nerve to ask me after he received the invitation.....why Would I pick Sunday to get married and why did I pick a ridiculous time of 11:00 in the morning.........
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Oh no, this is terrible news! I hate it when FMIL is right! Good thing I ordered 15 extra invites and good thing his dad is an only child and only one of FMILs sisters has children. Thanks everyone for clearing up this invitation mix up!
snydl40
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Yup, unfortunately she is right.
waterspout4
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Posted by libby2595
'proper etiquette' states that everyone over the age of 18, even if they live at home, should get an invite.
hth
I agree somewhat. We had about 6 'adults' still living at home and we still sent one invitation to the household. Yep, etiquette states that we invite them alone, but we feel if you can't pay your rent alone, then you don't get an invitation alone. Who cares what etiquette states?
Also, if you send an invitation alone, then you're asking them to bring a guest. Even if you only invite them, they are more likely to bring a guest with an invitation alone, no matter their age.
