Who gives toasts at wedding?

So far, we've got our best man, my two MOHs doing a tag-team toast, and my dad doing a welcome toast and singing a song. Then I heard someone say something about FH and I giving speeches to each other or to thank the guests?? I don't think we were planning on doing this. Is this customary? What is everyone else doing?

Re: Who gives toasts at wedding?

It is not customary for the bride and groom to speak at the reception. I went to a wedding recently where the bride spoke of her mother, who has passed, sort of like she was there with them that day, etc... I did think that it was a very nice, sentimental touch... however, in your case, I do not think you need to say a word, sit back, enjoy your day and let other people toast to the two of you!!

Re: Who gives toasts at wedding?

You can , but don't have, to do this. We're not. Talk to your DJ, they'll give you ideas on who does toasts.

Besides w/4 people already giving toasts, you don't want the whole night taken up with speaking.

Re: Who gives toasts at wedding?

That's what I thought. It's bad enough we have so many other people yakking away!

Actually, FH and I will be getting up to speak, but it won't be as a toast. Later in the evening, instead of doing the bouquet/garter thing, we are going to present two small bouquets to my grandmothers (ages 88 and 89) and also recognize our parents' anniversaries (mine are 8/28 and his are the same day as our wedding!)

Re: Who gives toasts at wedding?

they say you could have the bride thank her inlaws, and the groom thank his inlaws...

just be careful if you dont want certain people giving speeches.. my sisters dj asked if anyone wanted to come up stage and talk... so my mom gave a speech welcoming my BIL(but it sounded bad.. she talked about how my sister basically didnt care to date him in the begining then ended up with him) ..

Re: Who gives toasts at wedding?

We had 4 toasts right before dinner... 2 best men and 2 maid of honors...

Than right after we cut the cake DH gave a short thank you speech.

I say, do what you feel is comfortable.