FH just called me and said his family is pissed that they're not invited to my shower. My shower was supposed to be a surprise so I didnt have much to say about guest list. My MOH just asked about my guests for a shower so I proved her with my closest friends who are invited to my shower. My BMs do not have alot of money so I kept it small.
Shouldmy MOH invite my FH's family? Are the normally invited? Do I have to invite them? And do they have any right to be pissed?
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Just spoke to FH and he said his mom is pissed because her friends are not invited. His sisters are both from out of town and are invited, but his mom wants her friends who I do not know to be invited... are they supposed to be invited?
siffleuse319
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When I was asked for invites, I was told that every woman who is invited to the wedding should get a shower invite. I thought it was incredibly excessive considering that I've never met half of these people...but that's what we did. I'd rather over invite and have a slew of No RSVPs than offend anyone who will be sharing in my nuptuals. It's O.K. that you made this mistake...I mean, you've never been a bride before...so how were you supposed to know. Just put your MOH in touch with your FMIL and a mother/mother figure from your side. The rest is up to the 3 of them. Good Luck sweetie...and don't stress about this. You're not supposed to have all the answers!
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Posted by siffleuse319
When I was asked for invites, I was told that every woman who is invited to the wedding should get a shower invite. I thought it was incredibly excessive considering that I've never met half of these people...but that's what we did. I'd rather over invite and have a slew of No RSVPs than offend anyone who will be sharing in my nuptuals. It's O.K. that you made this mistake...I mean, you've never been a bride before...so how were you supposed to know. Just put your MOH in touch with your FMIL and a mother/mother figure from your side. The rest is up to the 3 of them. Good Luck sweetie...and don't stress about this. You're not supposed to have all the answers!
thank you, I unfortunately do not have any mother/mother figures coming to the shower, they're all out of towners so they're not coming. My aunt doesnt even know what a shower is and shes my only mother figure. I invited FMIL because I knew she would get mad if I didnt, and I'm stressing because I'm not paying for this, FMIL is not paying, its my friends who are still in school who are paying. I told them I didnt even want one, but they wanted to have one for me. I guess i'm being a bridezilla not wanting her friends who I dont know come when its costing them an arm and a leg already. sigh
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Posted by wo0shply
Posted by siffleuse319
When I was asked for invites, I was told that every woman who is invited to the wedding should get a shower invite. I thought it was incredibly excessive considering that I've never met half of these people...but that's what we did. I'd rather over invite and have a slew of No RSVPs than offend anyone who will be sharing in my nuptuals. It's O.K. that you made this mistake...I mean, you've never been a bride before...so how were you supposed to know. Just put your MOH in touch with your FMIL and a mother/mother figure from your side. The rest is up to the 3 of them. Good Luck sweetie...and don't stress about this. You're not supposed to have all the answers!
thank you, I unfortunately do not have any mother/mother figures coming to the shower, they're all out of towners so they're not coming. My aunt doesnt even know what a shower is and shes my only mother figure. I invited FMIL because I knew she would get mad if I didnt, and I'm stressing because I'm not paying for this, FMIL is not paying, its my friends who are still in school who are paying. I told them I didnt even want one, but they wanted to have one for me. I guess i'm being a bridezilla not wanting her friends who I dont know come when its costing them an arm and a leg already. sigh
That is understandable, but you shoudl invite his sisters, grandmother, aunts, etc. at least. It is only the right thing to do.
Happybride2005
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u invite family and close friends. fmil's friends don't have to be invited
bluekat16
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Yes FH's family should def. be invited.
wo0shply
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His family is being sent the invite today.
jessnstu08
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His family is being sent the invite today.
If FMIL really feels strongly about having her friends at the shower, i would explain to her that
1. none of your friends have ever thown a shower and did not know , nor did you
2. if she wants them there , she can contribute financially to the shower , since your friends cannot afford to pay for all these extra people
